Coffee With Dr. Kashey

Dive into the latest episode with Dr. Kashey, where he takes you on an intellectual journey through a stress workshop. Dr. Kashey goes over how to understand how stimuli lead to responses, which in turn become new stimuli. Recognize that altering one can impact others while acknowledging that stress is often a product of our opinions about external events. Learn to identify stressors as either challenges to be overcome or threats to be avoided. Finding ways to deal with stressors deemed threatening and avoid unnecessary anxiety. And avoid behaviors that might exacerbate stress, like avoidance or emotional outbursts.

Whether it's a minor slip or a major blunder, Dr. Kashey’s wisdom is like a trusty pocket tool for self-reconciliation. It's a reminder that the most reliable friend you need when you stumble is your own compassionate self. Through guided exercises, Dr. Kashey shows you how to transform the worry in your guts into a wellspring of wise counsel. Get ready to touch your heart, literally and figuratively, and learn the art of caring touch to console your nervous system. Discover how embracing self-support isn't just good for you, but a gift to those around you.

Today, we're delving into the art of mental clarity with a unique guided exercise that sharpens your focus and fortifies your resolve. 

It's not about sweeping mistakes under the rug—it's about shining a light on them, learning, and moving forward stronger.

Prepare to swap the comfort of familiar distractions for the thrill of conquering challenges. We'll explore the intricate dance of stimuli and responses, and how altering this rhythm can change the very fabric of our daily lives.

With Dr. Kashey’s insights, you'll discover how to turn every 'oops' into a launchpad for success. So settle in, take a deep breath, and get ready to exercise your mind like never before.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about Tabitha's journey through cognitive, emotional, and behavioral shifts towards activity. Tabitha challengeed her belief systems by weighing the pros and cons of physical activity. Through shame extermination and self-respect techniques, Tabitha learned to handle negative emotions linked to exercise, emphasising on action-oriented steps to solidify an active lifestyle. Tabitha's physical activity plan begins with simple movements, progressively advancing in complexity and intensity. Positive reinforcement is used to reward the achievement of activity milestones. Custom fitness plans cater to individual abilities and encourage progression. Encouraging skill acquisition in preferred activities to boost enjoyment and proficiency.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about various techniques he used to help his client, Tabitha, overcome her self-destructive emotional disturbances and develop a healthier relationship with physical activity. He emphasizes acknowledging negative feelings as a motivator for improvement rather than a source of guilt and shame. Dr. Kashey explains how he guided Tabitha through exercises like purposefully engaging in embarrassing activities to desensitize her to the fear of judgment and recognize that people are primarily self-centered, diminishing the impact of others' opinions. He also discusses the distinction between self-esteem and self-respect, encouraging Tabitha to assess her decisions objectively rather than judging her entire worth based on outcomes. Additionally, Dr. Kashey describes a role-reversal technique where Tabitha's friend pretended to be her, voicing her negative self-talk, allowing Tabitha to dispute these irrational beliefs from an external perspective.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the emotive aspect of the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model, focusing on Tabitha's journey in overcoming emotional disturbances and cultivating self-respect regarding physical activity. He explains the concept of "double trouble," where a practical problem escalates into an emotional disturbance, creating a destructive cycle. Dr. Kashey introduces three major techniques: shame extermination, cultivating self-respect, and role reversal. Shame extermination involves acknowledging and facing feelings of embarrassment and shame surrounding one's body and physical abilities. Tabitha learned to confront these emotions directly, recognising that while frustration and annoyance are natural motivators, upgrading them into anger, anxiety, and shame clouds rational thinking and prompts impulsive, self-destructive behavior. By systematically desensitizing herself to these emotions, Tabitha was able to build frustration tolerance and self-respect.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey continues his workshop on "How to Love Using Your Body" by focusing on the cognitive aspect of the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model. He introduces the concept of disputation, which involves detecting distorted belief systems, discriminating between rational and irrational thoughts, and debating the validity of these beliefs to replace them with more rational ones. Dr. Kashey shares the example of Tabitha, a former client who successfully employed this disputation process to overcome her aversion to physical activity. Tabitha learned to ask herself three key questions: "Why should I be exempt and still get what I want?" "What makes being active so horrible?" and "Where's the evidence that I can't stand it?" By challenging her distorted beliefs and irrational thoughts, Tabitha was able to transition from a mindset of avoidance to one of embracing physical activity and enjoying its benefits. Dr. Kashey emphasizes the importance of intellectual understanding and philosophical integration, where beliefs are truly internalized and reflected in one's actions and way of living.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey continues his workshop on "How to Love Using Your Body" by exploring the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model and the variable outcome principle. He explains how exposing a group of people to the same stimulus can lead to a variety of responses and outcomes, depending on their underlying belief systems. Dr. Kashey contrasts the beliefs of the "generally active" group, who view the benefits of being active as outweighing the hassles, with the "generally passive" group, who perceive the hassles as outweighing the benefits. He highlights the role of distorted belief systems and rigid, perfectionistic demands in perpetuating the avoidance of physical activity. Dr. Kashey illustrates how self-sabotaging thoughts, such as "I must only work as hard as I think I should, or else," can lead to the development of the "I can't stand it-itis" condition, ultimately providing permission to remain sedentary. He emphasizes the importance of fostering self-respect by assessing decisions and outcomes objectively, rather than engaging in self-judgment and harsh demands.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about his free workshop titled "How to Love Using Your Body, Even If It's Embarrassing, and It Sucks," which aims to help individuals overcome the frustrations and barriers associated with adopting an active lifestyle. He introduces the SRO (Stimulus-Response-Outcome) model, which focuses on addressing the cognitive, emotional, and behavioral aspects that contribute to the avoidance of physical activity. Dr. Kashey shares the inspiring story of Tabitha, a former client who successfully transformed her life by losing over 120 pounds, reversing diabetes, and learning to enjoy using her body through the techniques taught in the workshop. The workshop emphasizes the importance of identifying and challenging distorted beliefs, negative emotions, and avoidance behaviors related to exercise. Dr. Kashey stresses the concept of self-respect, which involves forming conclusions about actions and outcomes rather than defining oneself based on perceived laziness or inactivity. He highlights Tabitha's journey from being the "empress of avoiding sports" to gradually increasing her physical activity and experiencing numerous health benefits as a result.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about a scientific study by researchers at Stanford University that analyzed the representation of food and drinks in popular movies. The study found that the on-screen diets portrayed in these movies vastly differed from the USDA nutrition guidelines, featuring low-fiber, high-sodium, and an abundance of unhealthy treats, such as candies, chips, desserts, and alcoholic beverages. Dr. Kashey highlights that many of these movies were rated PG-13 or lower, indicating that children were exposed to these unrealistic dietary representations. Dr. Kashey questions the influence of these depictions on people's eating habits, suggesting that while it may normalize and encourage the consumption of unhealthy foods shown in movies, it does not necessarily lead individuals to adopt an overall "wacky diet of candy and cheese curls." He argues that if movies portrayed healthier eating habits, people would likely lose interest and seek content that aligns with their behaviors.