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Ep 6. Why "Because I Said So" is a Relationship-Killer
Welcome to the episode that will change how you talk to your kids forever.
We all say it. "Because I said so." It’s our final answer when we're tired, frustrated, and out of options. We think we're setting a boundary, but we're actually drawing a battle line.
In this revolutionary episode of The Rewired Parent, I'm pulling back the curtain on why this cornerstone of conventional parenting is one of the most destructive phrases you can use with your neurodivergent child. We're going deep into the neuroscience of why their brain doesn't just hear a rule; it hears a threat.
This isn't an easy conversation, but it's a necessary one. If you're ready to trade compliance for connection and become the parent your child trusts, this is the episode that starts the revolution in your home.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The Three Hidden Daggers: The specific, damaging messages your child's nervous system hears when you say, "Because I said so."
Why Their "Why" Matters: How shutting down their questions isn't teaching respect—it's killing their curiosity and teaching them their perspective is irrelevant.
The Neuroscience of Safety: Why a logical reason is a safety cue for an anxious brain, and "Because I said so" is a danger cue that triggers a fight-or-flight response.
Warden vs. Ally: How this single phrase turns you from your child's trusted teammate into their powerful adversary, slowly building a wall between you.
What to Say Instead: Simple, powerful, boundary-based scripts that replace arbitrary power with respectful leadership (the "Bob Ross meets Gordon Ramsay" model).
Special Announcement in this episode:
Dr. Palmer will be speaking at TEDxFullerton on October 5th! Get details at tedxfullerton.com.
Join the Revolution! This is the work. We challenge the advice that is failing our families. We break the rules to build connection.
Subscribe to The Rewired Parent.
Share this episode with another parent who is ready to break the cycle.
Join the conversation on social media using #SparkSquad.
Get full access to Dr David at Rewire the Response at drdavidapalmer.substack.com/subscribe
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By Dr. David A PalmerWelcome to the episode that will change how you talk to your kids forever.
We all say it. "Because I said so." It’s our final answer when we're tired, frustrated, and out of options. We think we're setting a boundary, but we're actually drawing a battle line.
In this revolutionary episode of The Rewired Parent, I'm pulling back the curtain on why this cornerstone of conventional parenting is one of the most destructive phrases you can use with your neurodivergent child. We're going deep into the neuroscience of why their brain doesn't just hear a rule; it hears a threat.
This isn't an easy conversation, but it's a necessary one. If you're ready to trade compliance for connection and become the parent your child trusts, this is the episode that starts the revolution in your home.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The Three Hidden Daggers: The specific, damaging messages your child's nervous system hears when you say, "Because I said so."
Why Their "Why" Matters: How shutting down their questions isn't teaching respect—it's killing their curiosity and teaching them their perspective is irrelevant.
The Neuroscience of Safety: Why a logical reason is a safety cue for an anxious brain, and "Because I said so" is a danger cue that triggers a fight-or-flight response.
Warden vs. Ally: How this single phrase turns you from your child's trusted teammate into their powerful adversary, slowly building a wall between you.
What to Say Instead: Simple, powerful, boundary-based scripts that replace arbitrary power with respectful leadership (the "Bob Ross meets Gordon Ramsay" model).
Special Announcement in this episode:
Dr. Palmer will be speaking at TEDxFullerton on October 5th! Get details at tedxfullerton.com.
Join the Revolution! This is the work. We challenge the advice that is failing our families. We break the rules to build connection.
Subscribe to The Rewired Parent.
Share this episode with another parent who is ready to break the cycle.
Join the conversation on social media using #SparkSquad.
Get full access to Dr David at Rewire the Response at drdavidapalmer.substack.com/subscribe