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In this episode, Dr. David explores the behavior of whining in children, particularly during the holiday season. He discusses the underlying emotional and neurological factors that contribute to this behavior, emphasizing the importance of understanding and compassion in parenting. Dr. A provides insights on how to respond to whining with empathy while maintaining boundaries, and he encourages parents to view these moments as opportunities for growth and connection rather than as sources of frustration.

In this episode, Dr. David discusses the challenges faced by neurodivergent children during the holiday season, particularly focusing on behaviors associated with gift-giving and sharing. He introduces the concept of 'scarcity brain,' explaining how it affects children's responses to gifts and sharing. Dr. David emphasizes the importance of creating a safe emotional environment for children, rather than forcing compliance, to help them navigate their feelings and behaviors during this chaotic time.Rewire the Moment Mini-Course: Buy HereThe Rewire Live Lab Interest List: Join Here

In this conversation, Dr. David discusses the concept of flow in gaming, emphasizing the intense focus and immersion players experience. He explains how this state engages the brain fully, enhancing problem-solving and coordination. The discussion also touches on the negative effects of disrupting this flow state, likening it to a sudden awakening that can provoke a hostile response.

Join Dr. David A. Palmer as he unravels the mysteries of dopamine and its impact on teen gaming habits. Discover practical strategies to balance screen time and foster real-life connections. Perfect for parents seeking harmony at home!

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In this eye-opening 20-minute solo episode, explore why your knee-jerk reaction to a child’s lie might be fueling the problem—not fixing it. Drawing from neuroscience and real-life stories (like the classic “candy juice on the face” fib), we reframe “defiant” lies as survival defenses triggered by adult “storms.” Discover the CALM framework—a simple, actionable reset to create safety, lower the “cost of truth,” and build lasting trust.

Packed with practical scripts, a guided breath reset, and quick tips for parents, teachers, and caregivers, this episode flips confrontation into connection. Inspired by Dr. David A. Palmer’s TED Talk “Am I Safe With You?”—watch it for the full framework!

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Perfect for anyone tired of power struggles. Listen now and become the calm, not the chaos. #ParentingHacks #EmotionalIntelligence #BeTheCalm

Last week, we established the core reframe: the homework fight isn't a battle of wills, it's a battle of wiring. But understanding the "why" doesn't stop the meltdown brewing at 5 PM. For that, you need a toolbox.

In this episode, we're filling that toolbox. This is a deep dive into five of my favorite "Study Spells"—simple, powerful, and sometimes weird brain resets that work with your child's neurodivergent brain, not against it. The goal isn't to force compliance; it's to lower resistance, calm the nervous system, and make the impossible task feel possible.

If you’re ready to trade the old playbook of "applying more force" for a new one focused on "finding more fuel," this episode is your practical starting guide.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

The crucial ground rule for all homework resets: We are aiming for cooperation, not perfection.

The 5 "Study Spells" to add to your parenting toolbox:

The Pomodoro Sprint: How to use a visual timer to kill the feeling of "forever."

The Anchor of the Body Double: The weirdly magical power of your silent, regulated presence.

The Dopamine Game: How to artificially inject the "interest fuel" their brain craves without bribery.

The Power of Novelty: Using simple environmental changes to reboot a stuck brain.

The Brain Dump: A 2-minute reset to clear their mental RAM before the work even begins.

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Welcome to the episode that will change how you talk to your kids forever.

We all say it. "Because I said so." It’s our final answer when we're tired, frustrated, and out of options. We think we're setting a boundary, but we're actually drawing a battle line.

In this revolutionary episode of The Rewired Parent, I'm pulling back the curtain on why this cornerstone of conventional parenting is one of the most destructive phrases you can use with your neurodivergent child. We're going deep into the neuroscience of why their brain doesn't just hear a rule; it hears a threat.

This isn't an easy conversation, but it's a necessary one. If you're ready to trade compliance for connection and become the parent your child trusts, this is the episode that starts the revolution in your home.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

The Three Hidden Daggers: The specific, damaging messages your child's nervous system hears when you say, "Because I said so."

Why Their "Why" Matters: How shutting down their questions isn't teaching respect—it's killing their curiosity and teaching them their perspective is irrelevant.

The Neuroscience of Safety: Why a logical reason is a safety cue for an anxious brain, and "Because I said so" is a danger cue that triggers a fight-or-flight response.

Warden vs. Ally: How this single phrase turns you from your child's trusted teammate into their powerful adversary, slowly building a wall between you.

What to Say Instead: Simple, powerful, boundary-based scripts that replace arbitrary power with respectful leadership (the "Bob Ross meets Gordon Ramsay" model).

Special Announcement in this episode:

Dr. Palmer will be speaking at TEDxFullerton on October 5th! Get details at tedxfullerton.com.

Join the Revolution! This is the work. We challenge the advice that is failing our families. We break the rules to build connection.

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Welcome back to The Rewired Parent.

Last episode, we established the core reframe: it’s not a battle of wills, it’s a battle of wiring. But what happens when that wiring difference leads to a full-blown meltdown at the worst possible moment?

Trying to reason with a child whose survival brain has taken over is like trying to teach physics during an earthquake. It won't work. Your number one job is not to teach a lesson; it's to help their nervous system feel safe again.

In this episode, I'm giving you the tool to do just that. It's called Anchor and Echo, and it's the single most effective five-minute brain reset I've ever used. This isn't theory; it’s a practical, step-by-step technique to become the calm anchor in your child’s storm and restore connection when you need it most.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Why logic, reasoning, and lectures are useless when your child's thinking brain is offline.

The Anchor: A 30-second "Stop, Drop, and Roll" technique to regulate your own nervous system first, so you don't add more fuel to the fire.

The Echo: A simple, three-step verbal tool to co-regulate with your child and make them feel seen, understood, and safe.

The exact script to use for the "Echo" technique:

Sportscast the Action (e.g., "You're yelling and your body is pushing those shoes away.")

Name the Feeling (e.g., "You seem really angry right now.")

Validate the Desire (e.g., "You really don't want to put your shoes on.")

How this simple reset shifts you from being an adversary to an ally, making cooperation the natural outcome of connection.

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Welcome to this episode of The Rewired Parent.

I’ve spent 30 years as an educational leader and hold a doctorate in special education. On paper, I was the person who was supposed to have all the answers. But at home, with my own amazing, complex, neurodivergent kids, I was drowning. I tried the sticker charts, the time-outs, and the endless lectures, only to find myself in a constant state of frustration, feeling the connection with my kids slipping away.

I thought it was a battle of wills. I was wrong. It was a battle of wiring.

In this foundational episode, I’m not sharing tips from a textbook. I’m sharing my own story—from the public meltdowns and feelings of failure to the "aha" moment that changed everything. This is the journey that led to the core philosophy of this entire movement: Stop fighting the fire. Understand the spark.

Join me for the vulnerable, messy, and ultimately hopeful story of how I went from a desperate parent to a rewired one.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Why the conventional parenting playbook is destined to fail our neurodivergent kids.

The painful, real-life moments that pushed me to abandon the old way and search for something better.

The single most important paradigm shift: moving from a "behavior" lens to a "nervous system" lens.

How understanding neuroscience can transform your role from "enforcer" to your child's most trusted "ally."

The origin of the "Spark Squad" and the mission of The Rewired Parent movement.

Resources Mentioned:

Ready to start your own journey? Get my free Emergency Meltdown Protocol—the essential first-aid kit for your family's nervous system.

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🚨 Stop Taking It Personally—Start Listening Differently.

Ever feel like your child is mocking you, challenging your authority, or just trying to push your buttons?Before you snap—pause.

In today’s game-changing episode, I flip the script on what “disrespect” really means—and why that eye roll, door slam, or backtalk is not what you think.

🔍 Inside This Episode:

* A personal story that redefined how Dr. Palmer sees “disrespect”

* The real neuroscience behind those explosive or shutdown moments

* 4 common “rude” behaviors decoded into emotional SOS signals

* Word-for-word scripts that turn power struggles into connection moments

* The 3-step nervous system reset that actually works (and saves your sanity)

* Why your child’s reactions are a mirror—not a manipulation

🧠 Truth Bomb:

“You can’t co-regulate a child if you’re still taking their behavior personally.”

🎯 This Episode Is For You If…

* You’re tired of walking on eggshells around your kid

* You want to stop yelling but don’t know what else to do

* You feel like nothing “works” and consequences only make things worse

* You’re ready to lead with calm instead of control

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🔥 Listener Challenge:

Next time your child rolls their eyes, slams the door, or talks back—ask yourself:“What are they trying to communicate?”Then breathe, name the feeling, and respond to the need—not the behavior.

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Remember:You’re not raising a “well-behaved kid.”You’re raising a future adult who knows how to feel, connect, and self-regulate.Let’s start there.