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EP 61: Why You Keep Over-Explaining Yourself (And What It's Really Telling You)
If you have ever said no to something and then spent the next ten minutes explaining every reason why, this episode is for you.
In this episode, Summer is diving deep into one of the most common patterns she sees in her clients: over-explaining. Not just the surface habit of talking too much, but what the over-explaining is actually pointing to underneath. Because when you feel the need to justify a boundary, a decision, a cookie, or a price increase that nobody asked you about, that is your nervous system trying to keep you safe from a limiting belief you have not cleared yet. Summer walks through what over-explaining looks like in real life, why it is so deeply tied to perfectionism and people pleasing, and how justification is essentially your subconscious using words as evidence in a courtroom to make a case for something you do not yet fully believe yourself. Timestamps: 1:17 A chaotic morning before the episode even starts 10:10 What this episode is actually about 12:00 When "no" becomes a dictionary-length answer 15:57 Over-explaining as people pleasing and perfectionism in disguise 16:57 Why boundaries are so hard to set without over-explaining 19:00 How to tell if you actually give a fuck about something 27:09 The Zoom call that inspired this whole episode 28:18 Your action step: start a notes app list 31:00 How NLP removes the subconscious beliefs driving this 32:14 How to book a free call with SummerBook a Call with Summer Join VIRTUAL Siren Circle Stay up to date with Soul Inspirit Texts Join the Soul Inspirit Email List Follow Summer on Instagram Website soulinspirit.com Get Your Yes, No, Maybe So Oracle Deck Email Summer: [email protected]
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By Summer ParadisoIf you have ever said no to something and then spent the next ten minutes explaining every reason why, this episode is for you.
In this episode, Summer is diving deep into one of the most common patterns she sees in her clients: over-explaining. Not just the surface habit of talking too much, but what the over-explaining is actually pointing to underneath. Because when you feel the need to justify a boundary, a decision, a cookie, or a price increase that nobody asked you about, that is your nervous system trying to keep you safe from a limiting belief you have not cleared yet. Summer walks through what over-explaining looks like in real life, why it is so deeply tied to perfectionism and people pleasing, and how justification is essentially your subconscious using words as evidence in a courtroom to make a case for something you do not yet fully believe yourself. Timestamps: 1:17 A chaotic morning before the episode even starts 10:10 What this episode is actually about 12:00 When "no" becomes a dictionary-length answer 15:57 Over-explaining as people pleasing and perfectionism in disguise 16:57 Why boundaries are so hard to set without over-explaining 19:00 How to tell if you actually give a fuck about something 27:09 The Zoom call that inspired this whole episode 28:18 Your action step: start a notes app list 31:00 How NLP removes the subconscious beliefs driving this 32:14 How to book a free call with SummerBook a Call with Summer Join VIRTUAL Siren Circle Stay up to date with Soul Inspirit Texts Join the Soul Inspirit Email List Follow Summer on Instagram Website soulinspirit.com Get Your Yes, No, Maybe So Oracle Deck Email Summer: [email protected]