People confuse "I won't do it again" with "I wish I never did it." A baal teshuva might say, "I wasn't frum back then—I didn't know better, so it's okay that I enjoyed it." No. Real charata means even though you had fun, you're horrified by what you did.

Hashem's rachamim allows teshuva to uproot the desire to sin, and when you uproot the desire, it's as if the act itself never happened. But that only works if your regret is real. Are you hiding behind excuses—"I was an oneis, I didn't know"—to avoid feeling the full weight of what you did? Or can you stare honestly at your past enjoyment and say, "I wish with everything in me that I never experienced that"? This episode forces you to confront whether your teshuva is genuine or just a performance.

Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!