Pursue HER

Ep. 84: Why Your Marriage Feels Off: Check Your Expectations


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Have you ever felt like something in your marriage was “off,” but you couldn’t put your finger on it? Sis, it might not be the big issues — it could be the expectations you’ve been carrying.

In this episode of The Pursue HER Podcast, we’re getting real about the unspoken and unrealistic standards wives often place on their husbands. From wanting him to “just know” what you need, to expecting him to fill every emotional, spiritual, and practical role, these unchecked expectations can silently sabotage your connection.

We’ll break down:

  • How unrealistic expectations create distance in marriage

  • Why unspoken needs often turn into resentment

  • Where our expectations actually come from (culture, social media, childhood, church)

  • The hidden ways these expectations make your marriage feel “off”

  • Practical, faith-based strategies to reset expectations and rebuild intimacy


    💡 Key Takeaways:

  • Not every expectation is bad — but every expectation needs clarity.

  • Your husband can’t be your everything. God never designed him to carry that.

  • Communication and grace are the keys to a stronger, healthier marriage.

🎥 Watch this chat (and others) on YouTube at  https://www.youtube.com/@KelleyJBell

Resources Mentioned:💻 Marriage Check-In - https://www.kelleyjbell.com/product-page/the-marriage-check-in-worksheet 

💻 A Guide to Transforming Your Marriage - https://www.kelleyjbell.com/product-page/a-guide-to-transforming-your-marriage

💻 For additional resources, visit www.kelleyjbell.com 

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