Dr. Kashey relieves us of our perfectionist demands that only create frustration and ultimately end in self-sabotage. People tend to act based on what they believe rather than what they actually want. If a belief system is crooked, then actions aligned with those crooked beliefs will lead to undesirable outcomes. Then, in an effort to make sense of the conflict between what someone does and the results they’re getting, irrational thought processes can arise. Upon closer investigation, it might be found that unrealistic perfectionist demands are disguised as valued beliefs. This is why reasonable preferences are more helpful than perfectionist demands.