Today we are tackling a lie that has been unknowingly controlling many women, and this is the belief that we need permission to transform our lives.

Many women I have worked with have struggled to believe they can set aside the time and energy needed to pour into their dreams. As women, we're trained that focusing on our needs is selfish, and I am here to throw a flag on that. Taking care of ourselves makes us better prepared to care for those we love, our work, and all other aspects of our lives. For several years I believed I lacked the margin to spend energy, time, or resources chasing my dreams. Whenever I made a move to do so, the guilt monster would come roaring in, and I would back away. But after doing my work, I realized I MUST take ownership over how my story unfolds even as I navigate circumstances beyond my control. And this means I have to stop apologizing for taking up space in this world. Does this feel familiar to you?

I think it is time we all started giving ourselves permission to change...to become the women we want to be so we can show up in the world in a way that aligns with our values and what matters most to us.

Did you know that permission slips were designed for minors or people unable to make competent decisions legally? They weren't designed to be needed by grown women.

Think about it: Who are you asking to sign your permission slip so you can do what it is you want to do?  And why on earth do they hold authority over you in that way?  I am serious. This is a question you need to be asking yourself every single time you hesitate to do something you want to do. And because this is rooted in needing approval from someone, I would challenge you to remember that no one else has to understand the vision you have for your life. Only you know what is best for you.  And no matter how important the other person is to you, they can’t understand everything you do because they aren't inside your head.

Instead of thinking of permission slips traditionally, I want to offer a new lens for the idea of you needing permission. What if, moving forward, the concept of permission meant unapologetic action? If we implement what we have learned here, we know that awareness plus alignment leads to integrity. If we define and live by a set of active core values, they are the guiding force behind making aligned decisions to ensure we live in integrity. See, our journey is so much bigger than us, and we are all meant to leave this world a better place than we found it. But that begins by us making choices aligned with what we value. If we are moving through life using these steps to filter our decisions, then there is no room for us to need permission from someone else. We can simply take confident, unapologetic action in the direction of our dreams because we know that they are right for us. And isn’t that a much better way to live?

In this episode, we are going to take three steps to create freedom so we can transform our lives. Listen to hear me explain these and then be sure to head to the blog version for a recap along with a free download to help you take strategic steps to do this in your life today.

Head here to find the blog version of the episode containing the free download.

Follow us on:

Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast

Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast 

Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com