Capacity Conversations

EP 93: Breaking the Over-Functioning Cycle


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Welcome to the Capacity Conversations Podcast. This is the safe space to talk openly and honestly about the challenges we face while managing the competing priorities between our personal and professional lives. Many of us are in corporate, entrepreneurs, or a combination of the two — while also being moms, wives, caregivers, big sisters, church leaders, or the go-to person in our families and friend groups. And without intentional alignment, all of that responsibility can quietly turn into over-functioning, burnout, resentment, and maxed-out capacity.

In this episode, we’re breaking the over-functioning cycle. I unpack the difference between high-functioning and over-functioning, how over-functioning often starts in childhood as survival, and how it follows us into adulthood — showing up at home, at work, in business, in friendships, and even in church.

I share personal stories about stepping into responsibility at nine years old, over-functioning in my HR career to justify my seat at the table, and how grief exposed patterns I didn’t even realize I was carrying. We talk about how being praised for “stepping up” can become part of your identity — and how that identity can slowly cost you your peace, your energy, and your capacity.

This episode will help you recognize where you may be carrying what isn’t yours — and give you practical, everyday ways to break the pattern.

If you’re the strong one…The dependable one… The fixer… The one people rely on…

 

This conversation is for you!

How to Break the Over-Functioning Cycle:

  1. Pause before you step in
  2. Let people experience the weight of their own choices (“Let Them”)
  3. Separate love from labor — personally and professionally
  4. Redefine what strong actually means
  5. Breaking the cycle doesn’t mean you stop being responsible. It means you stop carrying what isn’t yours.

    As a Capacity Coach and HR Leader, my philosophy is simple: healthy habits + healthy people = healthy businesses. When we manage our capacity well, we lead better, love better, and live better — without sacrificing ourselves in the process.

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