On this week’s episode Lulu and Laura are talking about if your feelings are love or if they’re a reflection of limerence.

Limerence is defined as the “state of involuntary obsession with another person. The experience of limerence is different from love or lust in that it is based on the uncertainty that the person you desire, called the “limerent object” in the literature, also desires you. Since limerence is the desire to be desired, it is a cognitive, as well as physical, and emotional experience. As the focus of limerence is whether or not the object of desire reciprocates the feelings, rather than actually falling in love with the person, it is almost always one-sided. (Psychology Today)

We share tips on how to recognize if you’re in limerence, our personal experiences being in limerence, and our opinions for how to get yourself out of limerence.

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Resources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/limerence

https://www.modernintimacy.com/limerence-vs-love-what-is-the-difference/

Dr. Margaret Loranze LCSW https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLAMvhPH/

Chrissie from Plussizedfun https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLAMWtxy/

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Title: Back in the 80s

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