My guest in today’s podcast is Rose-marie Fernandez, who has dubbed herself the Chief Influencing Officer of her company, Coaching Worx (CoachingWorx.ca). Rose-marie works with leaders and senior executives who want to influence and create greater impact for their teams within their greater organization. Influencers, to Rose-marie, are people who have a deep interest in their own self-development and who support it in the people around them as well.

I originally connected with Rose-marie through our mastermind group, which has been a great journey. Rose-marie is quite familiar with change, having moved continents five times, from the Indian subcontinent to Canada and back, and has lived in 41 different residences. She has changed jobs and even careers multiple times as well. But the one thing that is constant, she says, is that she keeps all her friends!

 

Today we spoke about change and the energy of money.

Build a New Paradigm of Money

Because she works as an energy coach, when Rose-marie discovered the book The Energy of Money: A Spiritual Guide to Financial and Personal Fulfillment, by Maria Nemeth PhD, it resonated. One big lessons she gleaned from the book is that if you are a victim of money, you’re never going to have enough.

We all struggle with the idea of money, she says, no matter how much we have. One of Rose-marie’s favorite quotes is from Buckminster Fuller: “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

If you are leading your same old life, she wonders, how will you change? For instance, many of us think of money as something you need to pay the bills. If that’s true, you can simply forego expenses and have fewer bills to pay. That’s not really the problem we have with money.

You’ve been programmed from childhood about how to think about money, and you have to make that reality obsolete, she says. Let go of: “I can’t afford that” or “I can’t do that right now because I don’t have money.” Or “money doesn’t grow on trees” or “ money is the root of all evil.” These are all myths, based on beliefs that are not necessarily yours. You may simply be repeating the story of your parents, environment, education, background, or culture.

Our mastermind has been reading this book together. I found it interesting that the processes this author uses for cleaning up your money energy can be used for time and any other topic you struggle with. The book helps you become more aware of the story you are telling yourself, own it, and erase self-limitations.

Observe and Make Friends with the Monkey Mind

Before she read the book, Rose-marie would set a goal and make the money. It wasn’t magic. She’s been self-employed for many years and knew how to save. But she uncovered a fear of having a lot of money, including: “I will lose my friends because I will have a different lifestyle.”

The book showed her how the monkey mind can play havoc with your money energy. As long as you realize that it’s your friend and will never go away, she reports, then you can learn when to use it and when to tell it to get lost. In the end, she believes, when you ask the universe to help you go on a journey then success is inevitable; you just don’t know when.

The first step is to become self-aware of how you think about money and how you create negative (and positive) energy for yourself around finances. For me, I used to let bills sit on my desk. I would avoid paying them for months. Now I pay them right away and include a “thank you” because I’m grateful to be able to pay my bills! The same with my taxes. Many people struggle and delay doing their taxes. Observe your habits and your language, and those of the people around you as well, to catch yourself in limiting beliefs.

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