In this episode, Aaron and Greer explore a crossroads many long-term couples  arrive at: relational reckoning.

 It’s the moment the illusions fall away and the real questions surface. 
Is what I’m receiving in this relationship enough to justify what I’m not receiving? Do I need to grieve what may never be available… or do I need to leave?

We unpack the most common forms of reckoning couples face, including emotional depth and sexual intimacy; and we share personal stories from our own lives, naming how these crossroads can be navigated with truth, compassion, and real discernment.

We also introduce developmental friction: the tension that arises when two partners are growing at different speeds or in different domains. When we understand that maturity is multidimensional, couples can stop making friction personal and start working with it in a grounded, practical way.

If you’re in a season of questioning, we hope this episode brings clarity, steadiness, and a sense of roadmap.

In this episode we cover:

• What relational reckoning actually is (and why it’s normal)
• The core question: “Do I need to grieve… or do I need to leave?”
• The emotional depth reckoning (functional vs fulfilling)
• The sexual intimacy reckoning; desire, safety, and rebuilding erotic connection
• Why outsourcing emotional intimacy can create more distance (and what to do instead)
• Aaron’s personal reckoning: stepping into love, parenting, and identity expansion
• Greer’s personal journey: how love can be real, and compatibility can still shift
• What developmental friction is; why couples grow at different speeds
• Lines of development: emotional, intellectual, somatic, spiritual, moral, relational
• How to work with friction when both partners are willing

Next steps:

If this landed and you’re in a season of reckoning,
you don’t have to navigate it alone.

Explore the Awakened Intimacy program or book an relationship clarity call 
www.intimacyforcouples.com