In this episode, Aaron and Greer weave together the threads of awakening, truth, and relationship; through the telling of Greer’s personal story.

This is a conversation for anyone standing at a threshold…
the ones quietly asking: Is this it?

Not because there’s no love.
Because something deeper is trying to be born.

Greer shares the initiations that shaped her; from an early relationship that blurred safety and intensity, to the slow recognition of self-abandonment, to the spiritual awakening that arrived through her father’s diagnosis and death… and the moment she saw two timelines for her life.

Key takeaways:

- Reckoning isn’t a crisis; it’s an initiation. Something essential is trying to mature in you.
- Self-abandonment can look like loyalty. Especially when you’re kind, devoted, and conflict-avoidant.
- Truth has a somatic signature. Your body knows long before your mind is ready.
- Awakening is not performance. It’s becoming more real; less shiny.
- Leaving doesn’t have to be violent. There is a way to do it with love, responsibility, and grace.
- True love isn’t fragile. It can evolve; it can change form; it can remain.

This episode is a transmission for anyone in a “reckoning” season; where truth begins to matter more than appearances, and love begins to ask for more honesty than we’ve ever been trained to give.

Ready for support?

If this episode lands in you, and you’re in a relationship reckoning season, we offer two next steps:

1) Alignment Call with Greer
For the woman (or the more “awake” partner) who wants the space to voice what’s true 
(without needing to justify it) - and step into her own reclamation. https://tidycal.com/intimacyforcouples/alginment-greer

2) Relationship Clarity Call with Aaron
For any one in relationships who wants to  be grounded truth, clean insight, and next steps; without spiralling into shame/blame or confusion. https://tidycal.com/intimacyforcouples/relationshipclarity

In this episode, Aaron and Greer explore a crossroads many long-term couples  arrive at: relational reckoning.

 It’s the moment the illusions fall away and the real questions surface. 
Is what I’m receiving in this relationship enough to justify what I’m not receiving? Do I need to grieve what may never be available… or do I need to leave?

We unpack the most common forms of reckoning couples face, including emotional depth and sexual intimacy; and we share personal stories from our own lives, naming how these crossroads can be navigated with truth, compassion, and real discernment.

We also introduce developmental friction: the tension that arises when two partners are growing at different speeds or in different domains. When we understand that maturity is multidimensional, couples can stop making friction personal and start working with it in a grounded, practical way.

If you’re in a season of questioning, we hope this episode brings clarity, steadiness, and a sense of roadmap.

In this episode we cover:

• What relational reckoning actually is (and why it’s normal)
• The core question: “Do I need to grieve… or do I need to leave?”
• The emotional depth reckoning (functional vs fulfilling)
• The sexual intimacy reckoning; desire, safety, and rebuilding erotic connection
• Why outsourcing emotional intimacy can create more distance (and what to do instead)
• Aaron’s personal reckoning: stepping into love, parenting, and identity expansion
• Greer’s personal journey: how love can be real, and compatibility can still shift
• What developmental friction is; why couples grow at different speeds
• Lines of development: emotional, intellectual, somatic, spiritual, moral, relational
• How to work with friction when both partners are willing

Next steps:

If this landed and you’re in a season of reckoning,
you don’t have to navigate it alone.

Explore the Awakened Intimacy program or book an relationship clarity call 
www.intimacyforcouples.com

In this week’s episode, we invite you into a very current, personal season of our life; one that has not been neatly processed or wrapped in a bow.

Aaron’s grandfather has been admitted to hospital and is not expected to leave; at the same time Greer is sitting in the ten year anniversary of her father’s passing. We speak about how we are each navigating our own grief; while still showing up for our relationship, our parenting, and our work with couples.

We explore grief not just as something to “get through” but as a powerful portal; a threshold that strips away performance and brings us closer to what really matters in love.

In this episode we explore;

How Aaron found the courage to tell his grandfather “I love you” for the first time; and how that opened a moment of healing between three generations of men

Greer’s experience of walking with her dad through terminal illness; and how she chose to drop every veil of performance and meet him soul to soul

The difference between “getting something off your chest” and speaking truth that actually liberates the heart

How to support a partner in grief when their capacity and attention are diminished; without abandoning your own boundaries or truth

Turning a misunderstanding into a home ho’oponopono style repair ritual; in front of our child

Grieving more than death; the loss of friendships, identities and old versions of self as you step onto a more authentic path

Why people may fall out of resonance as you awaken; and how to move through judgement, projection and “karmic backlash” with integrity

The importance of letting each person have their own unique way of grieving; and why we can never say “I know exactly how you feel”

Our intention is that this conversation offers you company if you are in a season of loss; and reminds you that grief, when met with presence and love, can deepen intimacy rather than shut it down.

Loving. Intelligent. But still feeling miles apart?
Most couples try to relate from the mind while the body is in protection; but empathy can’t land when the nervous system is on-guard.

In this episode we un-pack our sold-out CONNECTED workshop, we show how safety, sensation, and honest repair bring intimacy back online — including a real trigger we navigated live, in under three minutes. You’ll hear the exact moves that turned contraction into connection (fast), and why it worked.

We explore mind-only relating vs. felt connection; the body as the doorway to empathy; and why “disconnection” so often signals protection.
 You’ll also learn our simple three-layer map of intimacy — understood; seen; felt — and a couple of try-this-tonight practices to shift the field in minutes.

If this resonates, join us for the next CONNECTED workshop (Hobart) or deepen with the 8-week Awakened Intimacy program; links in the notes.

In our first episode, we explore what “Awakened Intimacy” really means — how safety, self-awareness, and spiritual growth come together in relationship. 

We also trace our path to this work from early workshops to becoming parents and finally refining our work with couples. 

We explore how identities and “masks” form; why triggers are invitations; and how to move from contraction into connection. 

You’ll hear a candid repair moment from our kitchen; plus a simple framework you can try tonight to shift from defensive patterns into us-ness.

What we cover:

• Seasons of a relationship; evolution of our work; and learning through lived practice
• Why “who is here in me” matters more than “what’s wrong with you”
• A grounded nervous-system lens for conflict; moving from fight/flight/freeze into choice
• The difference between protecting an identity and protecting the relationship
• A gentle way to name parts of us without letting them run the show
• Us-ness over me-versus-you; how repair builds real safety and depth

 If this resonated; share one thing that landed and a question you’d love us to explore.
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