Welcome back! In today’s episode, we’re continuing our series on cognitive distortions—those automatic, often false thought patterns that twist how we see ourselves, others, and even God. This week, we’re talking about one of the most common and damaging distortions: Labeling.

Labeling is when we assign a negative identity to ourselves or someone else based on a single moment, mistake, or behavior—like saying “I’m a failure,” “She’s selfish,” or “He’s lazy.” Over time, these labels can become self-fulfilling prophecies, shaping our choices, emotions, relationships, and even our spiritual lives.

But there’s hope: we’re not defined by our worst moments or what others say about us. We’re defined by who God says we are. In this episode, we’ll explore how to identify labeling thoughts, challenge them with truth, and walk in freedom.

TIMESTAMPS

[01:20] Cognitive distortions as twisted mental filters

[02:03] What Labeling is—and why it’s such a powerful cognitive distortion

[02:45] Real-life examples of how labeling shows up in relationships, parenting, and self-talk

[03:18] How negative labels become internalized and affect our identity, decision-making, and spiritual growth

[04:53] Signs you may be stuck in labeling language (like “always,” “never,” “I’m such a…”)

[05:27] 3 Tips for identifying labels

[06:41] What Scripture says about the power of our words—and why it matters

[08:25] How to find freedom from false labels

[09:38] Choose Life Challenge

🔑 4 Key Takeaways from This Episode:

1. Labels Aren’t Just Words—They’re Identity Shapers - Discover how one offhand comment or inner criticism can silently shape how you see yourself, your choices, and even your worth. Are you unknowingly living under a false identity?
2. The Words You Speak (Even in Your Head) Carry Spiritual Weight - Learn why Scripture says your tongue has the power of life and death—and how negative labels can block the freedom Jesus died to give you.
3. Healing Begins with One Powerful Question - Before you label yourself or someone else, ask this: Is this really true… or just one moment I’m turning into a name? Find out how this simple shift can begin renewing your mind and restoring your parenting, relationships, and self-talk.
4. Labels (and lies) have no power unless we choose to believe them.

 

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I’m cheering you on as you break free from what’s keeping you stuck and holding you back from all you were created to be!