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Ep.158: Getting Close with Aidan Wharton: Connection and Building Relationships That Actually Fit

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In this episode, we cover:
  • Meet Aidan Wharton: from theater school to the Wicked national tour and Broadway’s Girl From the North Country
  • Why Aidan “checked the boxes” in acting—and followed boredom and curiosity into writing + podcasting
  • The origin story of Aidan’s podcast Getting Close and its three pillars: curiosity, connection, community
  • How technology can be both a tool and a wedge—and why Aidan can’t stop thinking about how it’s pulling us apart
  • Zach’s Provincetown dinner story: when everyone’s on Grindr and nobody is actually together
  • The “watch the movie” debate: why phones during TV time drive some of us absolutely insane
  • Practical habits to fight the scroll:
    • deleting apps you don’t need
    • keeping your phone out of the bedroom
    • switching to an analog alarm clock
    • Aidan’s love-hate relationship with Instagram: business vs. mindless scrolling
    • Aidan and Casey’s love story:
      • meeting on Hinge
      • long distance during tour
      • moving in right before COVID
      • breaking up, regrouping, and rebuilding
      • the mutual proposal idea: exchanging rings on the same day
      • a wedding in Hawaii with a week-long community vibe—and yes, Aidan grew up in a yurt
      • A real conversation about open relationships:
        • why Aidan believes relationships can be “custom-built”
        • what people get wrong (and loud) online
        • jealousy as an “incredible teacher” that points to deeper needs
        • why openness often gets blamed for breakups even when the issues were already there
        • Adult friendship and community-building:
          • why making friends as an adult is hard (and takes intentional work)
          • Aidan’s “say yes to everything” social experiment
          • why follow-up texts matter
          • the idea of friendship as shared curiosity
          • Zach’s take on Boston vs. New York gay social culture
          • How Aidan chooses guests for Getting Close (so far):
            • starting with people he trusts while the show is still “baby”
            • guests ranging from queer fitness to sex therapy to investigative journalism
            • Aidan’s dream guests and influences:
              • Anna Lembke (Dopamine Nation)
              • Johann Hari (Stolen Focus)
              • Vivek Murthy and the loneliness epidemic
              • big-picture hopes for cultural + political conversations rooted in empathy
              • Aidan’s message for anyone feeling disconnected:
                • connection doesn’t require a giant life overhaul
                • it starts with small actions—one text, one coffee, one choice to get close
                  • Mentioned in the episode:

                  Aidan’s podcast: Getting Close

                  Aidan’s Substack: Gay Buffet

                  Tools + habits: analog alarm clock, phone boundaries, intentional social “yes” seasons

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