After Ep15, I gave myself homework to consider what I'm hoping to find in a future love. I've put a lot of thoughtful consideration into this to share back with you and hopefully inspire you to put time and consideration into what you're hoping to find in a partner.

After recently filling out an exhausting questionnaire for a matchmaker... It made me think about the qualities I'm really looking for in a partner, as well as what I bring to the table.

After discussing my opinions on the matchmaking process, I begin this episode by reiterating that you can't expect to attract your ideal partner if you aren't the best version of yourself.  

I joke that if you add up the qualities of my favorite guys I've met, they'd make a great mate. It's hard to find someone who possesses (most) of what I'm looking for. It's hard to find someone who embodies a lot of the traits of what you're looking for.

Some of the traits I discuss:

• Physical Appearance
• Intelligence
• Witty Banter/Humor
• Kindness
• Political & Social Views Alignment/Open-Mindedness
• Confidence/Pride in what I'm doing with this podcast/book
• Someone who wants a relationship with Lanie & fits in well with my family & friends
• Similar Interests (and interests of his own)
• I want to be with someone who has a BIG HEART

I'd love to find these qualities in a man I love, but I also understand "he" will possess qualities I find "annoying" and he won't be perfect.  We're all human & this is expected. If/when I find a man who posses some or most of these qualities, I'll cherish him.  If I don't, I'll be happy on my own.

HOLD OUT and play the long game to find the right person!

I'm willing to wait as long as it takes OR I'll BE HAPPY ALONE!

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