In this episode I share how I am at a peaceful, content, happy place in life with no romance...I'm good over here.

 In this episode, I focus on three main topics.

1. My experience after going through my first divorce helped me to brace and prepare myself for what I experienced during my second separation and divorce. This is not my first rodeo.  I wasn't surprised that my second divorce wasn't easy, cheap, or quick.   
2. I've spent a lot of time working on self-development and my relationships with loved one. I've gone to therapy off and on for over a decade.  I've read books, researched online, and listened to podcasts.  I think on this stuff a lot. I reflect. I pray. I talk about my interpersonal relationships with friends and family.  I try to learn.  
   • You have a choice. You can isolate yourself, pity yourself, punish yourself, feel guilty, numb yourself, distract yourself... OR you can make healthier choices. DO THE WORK!
   • Use your time doing things and being around people who make you happier and healthier!
3. I had an epiphany! I think I am happier by myself because in my marriages I kept secrets, experienced stress, chaos, manipulation, and lying.  I now have peace and stability on my own. Also, because I've never experienced a mutually loving, supportive, emotionally  healthy relationship I simply don't know what I am missing.  I think recovering from divorce can be harder for those who had relatively happy marriages where they shared a deep love and a balanced because they miss those things. 

Recovering from divorce is a process and everyone's journey is different.  This is just a little piece of mine.

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