In this episode, we explore what it means to be a woman in today’s world — not through a single definition, but through many voices.

This is a special collaboration with my fellow podcaster Juju, together with a group of wonderful women we met online: Limehouse, Chill, 29, Eleven, Sherely, Sippy, and Winnie.

Through a series of questions and shared reflections, we talk about topics such as femininity and feminism, the myths around women and female friendships, the expectations placed on women as we grow up, and the challenges we continue to navigate.

Each of us comes from different backgrounds and life stages — single or married, younger or more experienced — yet there is something deeply connecting in the way we see, question, and experience the world.

This episode is not about defining feminism, but about holding space for different perspectives, different stories, and different ways of being.

I found this conversation deeply meaningful, and I hope it brings you both resonance and strength. Special thanks to my friend Juju — for this collaboration and for the amazing work she does. If you enjoy thoughtful, high-quality English podcast content, I highly recommend checking out her podcast Juju’s Corner. 

这一期，我们一起聊“女性”与“女性主义”。

不是从一个标准答案出发，而是通过多位女性的真实经验与思考，去展开这个话题。

这是一场和播客创作者 Linsey 的合作，我们也邀请了几位在线上认识的女性朋友参与接力分享：Limehouse、Chill、29、Eleven、Sherely、Sippy 和 Winnie。

我们围绕一些问题展开，比如：带有女性气质的打扮是否意味着不够女性主义？社会对女性以及女性友谊的刻板印象是什么？从小到大我们所接受的“女性教化”又如何影响我们？

参与的女性来自不同的人生阶段，有已婚的，也有未婚的，有年轻的，也有更成熟的视角。但在这些差异之中，也有一种很真实的连接。

这期节目不是为了给女性主义下定义，而是希望通过不同的声音，让我们更理解彼此，也更理解自己。

对我来说，这是一期很有意义、也很有力量的对话，也希望它能带给你一些共鸣和力量。

特别感谢我的朋友 Juju一起完成这期合作。如果你也喜欢有深度、有温度的英文播客，我真的很推荐你去听她的播客: Juju’s Corner

List of the myths and the girls’s names who answered those questions:

1.Limehouse: If I keep wearing makeup, keep dressing in really feminine clothes, and sometimes even put on heels…  

does that make me, like, the absolute worst feminist ever?

2.Linsey: In the workplace, after a woman gets what she wants, she calms an angry male colleague by saying,

“不要跟小女子一般见识，你格局大.”So my question is “Is it necessary to put women down in order to smooth things over with others?  Why should women have to diminish themselves to defuse a man’s anger?”

3. Chill: If you could permanently erase one myth about women from society, what would it be and why?

4. Twentynine: “In many East Asian cultures, people seem to spend their whole lives preparing for retirement and old age. Does the idea of aging — especially the uncertainty of it — ever scare you? Do you think we should start planning for that stage of life as early as our 20s?”

5. Eleven: As a women in society what do u think is the biggest issue that we face since we’re little and how has that issue been resolved through out generations of women around the world?

6. Sherely: Regarding motherhood, the current public opinion field seems to be divided into two factions: one side is the traditional group that flaunts happy family gatherings with children, and the other side is the clear-headed group that rejects coercion and refuses to have children.

As an ordinary person, how do you view motherhood? In your opinion, raising a human life—is it a gift or a punishment?

7. Sippy: ”Is money capable of solving all human problems, or are there aspects of life—such as love, meaning, and morality—that remain beyond its reach?"

8. WIni: What is most ridiculous myth you’ve ever heard about women’s body part? 

9. Juju: Why do people often label assertive girls as ‘bossy,’ while praising boys for leadership?