Do you really know what confidence is? It definitely can’t be bought. You’ve been surrounded by fake confidence for so long you may not realize. Listen here to find out what true confidence is, and how to build it.

Episode Transcript

Intro

Hey there and welcome to I Can, I Am, I Will. The world’s number one podcast for confidence and self-empowerment. This is our third episode in 100 podcasts in 100 days. I am Lyndsey your confidence coach. And here we will discuss how you can stop limiting yourself so you can build confidence and achieved goals. I what you self-empowered and get that self-confidence and go out and do the things. And when I say the things, I mean the things that will make you happy. As long as you’re not hurting anyone else.

What Confidence Is Not

Today we’re going to talk about the definition of confidence, what it is, and what it isn’t. So sometimes confidence can be misunderstood or cockiness can be misunderstood as confidence. And people who are cocky or have like an overinflated vision of themselves can be seen as confidence. But that is not confidence. And a great way for you to test it is to consider that confidence—and keep in your mind—that confidence is not loud. Confidence is not proud. It’s not as they say “peacocking.” Where the guys will like puff up their chest and wear certain things to try and attract the opposite sex. Or whoever they’re trying to attract. Who knows.

But that is not confidence.

Confidence is not flashy car or nice clothes. Confidence cannot be bought. Confidence is an internal thing and confidence is a belief in yourself. It’s a self-empowerment. It is a feeling of self-assurance and it is an appreciation of your abilities in your qualities. Competence is self-love. It’s empowerment. Confidence is an internal thing. It is not external. It is internally within you. It is your birthright. You deserve to have it. We are digging it up. We’re talking about it. We’re mixing things around. Pulling it to the surface.

But confidence is not bitch face or acting like you’re better than others. I was looking up different confidence coaches and this one, she has a different style than I do. I personally do not agree with her style. And she had. I want it—I want the environment here to be more inviting. I want to be inviting of you. I want to be compassionate. This stuff is tough and you are essentially learning a skill. You are learning about something that you have inherently inside of you. But has been pushed down and when you build it you were bringing it back up to surface.

What Confidence Is

But as you bring it back up to surface there are other things are going to come up. The things that were holding it down. And you have to work through all that. And it can be difficult. It can be challenging. So I like this to be a compassionate environment because I want to show you compassion while you’re trying to find your own self compassion. I think that is the most beautiful thing in the world we are thriving off of each other. But then I see this one woman’s website and not to dog her or anything. I’m not making fun of her. She has just a different style than I do for confidence. She thinks confidence is like, i