To be NUMBER ONE YOU HAVE TO BE THE ODD ONE. You will be made to feel you have a problem when you DARE to be DIFFERENT. Those you sit and chat with will prefer you remain at the same level so when you STOOD OUT ,they think you are ignoring them. What happened is you GREW and became UNIQUE. Trust me , you go no further than the CROWD if you remain in the CROWD. Search within and you will FIND YOURSELF  where you have NEVER been before.