What if the change that needs to happen on your fertility journey isn’t outside of you — it’s inside?

When we struggle to conceive, we rush to change everything we can see and measure. The diet. The sleep schedule. The supplements. The clinic. But for all the external changes we make, most of us never stop to ask the harder question: who am I being on the inside — and is that person truly open to receiving this baby?

The courage to change is the courage to conceive. These two things are not separate. They are the same act. Because conceiving isn’t just a physical event — it’s an act of radical openness. It requires you to let go of fear, control, lack, and scarcity, and step into an entirely new version of yourself. A version that believes she is worthy of receiving what she wants most.

In this episode, fertility mindset coach Rosanne Austin shares what she witnessed firsthand at her Fearlessly Fertile Method group — a room full of extraordinary women who discovered that when they found the courage to change who they were being on the inside, the courage to conceive followed naturally.

If you’ve been changing everything outside of you and still not getting the result you want, this episode is your wake-up call.

Having the courage to conceive means being willing to open your heart, mind, and body to receive what you most want — a baby. It goes beyond physical preparation. It requires letting go of fear, control, doubt, and scarcity, and stepping into a new identity as a woman who is truly open to conception. The courage to conceive is directly linked to the courage to change who you are being on the inside.

Most women on a fertility journey focus exclusively on external changes — diet, supplements, sleep, and treatment protocols. While these matter, they ignore the most powerful variable: who you are being on the inside. Your thoughts, beliefs, and emotional patterns directly shape your energy, your actions, and ultimately your results. Inner change is what creates the energetic opening that allows conception to happen.

Courage and fertility are deeply connected. Conceiving — whether naturally or through treatment — requires a level of openness and vulnerability that most women don’t associate with fertility. When you have the courage to change your limiting beliefs, release your fear, and open your heart to receiving, you create the internal conditions that support conception on a physical, mental, and spiritual level.

Fear creates a closed, contracted energetic state that is the opposite of the openness required for conception. When you are in fear — gripping every detail of your cycle, agonizing over statistics, and operating from lack and scarcity — you send a signal to your mind, body, and spirit that it is not safe to conceive. Releasing fear and choosing courage is what allows that signal to shift.

Conceiving is fundamentally an act of receiving. When you are shut down emotionally — holding on tightly to control, fear, and old patterns — you block your ability to receive on every level, including physically. Having the courage to open up, be vulnerable, and truly receive is what creates the conditions for conception. This is why mindset work is so critical on a fertility journey.

Finding the courage to change starts with honest self-reflection. Ask yourself whether the way you are approaching your fertility journey is truly aligned with who you want to be and what you most value. From there, it means being willing to let go of the stories that keep you stuck — that you are too old, too broken, or have tried too many times — and stepping into a new identity as a woman who is open, worthy, and ready to conceive.

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[00:00:00] Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve gotta have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility Mindset Master, former prosecutor and recovering type a, control freak, perfectionist.

[00:00:20] I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat. Odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell Yes. For your fertility journey.

[00:00:39] It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 3 46. The Courage to Change equals The Courage to Conceive Loves. I’m so excited to be with you this week. I am coming off of an incredible weekend [00:01:00] with my Fearlessly conceived Mastermind group.

[00:01:02] This is a group of women that have come through my programs that were carefully selected to be part of a mastermind that I do. It’s a 10 month program where we do intensive study. Looking at all of the ways that come together for you to truly create a fearlessly conceived life. These are women that are working on their families and are now taking it to the next level.

[00:01:25] As they live a truly fearlessly conceived life, we’re looking at expanding their ideas for business. We’re looking at expanding their relationship with their femininity and really taking every aspect of their life to the next level. It is truly an extraordinary group of women, and it thrills me as a coach because we get to go there.

[00:01:46] And it’s just, it’s one of the great things that I look forward to because when you’re with women that are super committed to being fearless in their lives, not only in the way that they live their journey, but truly stepping into that in all aspects of life, [00:02:00] who it is like a tinderbox of fricking awesome.

[00:02:03] We were at this gorgeous resort. In California, specifically in Orange County, Newport Beach. We got to live an extraordinary time together and and really push boundaries and push past blocks if you ever get invited to it. Mm. It is really the next level, and you’d be fucking crazy not to do it. But anyway, that is what inspired this week’s podcast, because it is from your courage to change that you can find the courage to conceive.

[00:02:34] And I know you’re thinking, well, what kind of courage does it take to conceive? I know it takes courage to change, but what I wanna point your attention to is that your courage to change becomes a catalyst. It becomes a catalyst in so many different aspects of your life. Because if you’ve been living this journey for a while, and you have been listening to this podcast for a minute.

[00:02:58] You are going to realize that [00:03:00] the woman you are today, the woman who might be in struggle, the woman who might be doubting that this is ever gonna happen for her, or maybe the woman that’s stuck in the place that thinks that she can’t have it all. You have to have the courage to change that. In order to open your heart up to truly conceiving and receiving what it is that you want in this life, and opening up your mind, body, and spirit to conception is extremely vulnerable.

[00:03:29] Very few people talk about that Conceiving is all about receiving. I know you’ve heard me say that here, but if you take a moment and step back and really look. At what conceiving means, it means allowing yourself to create something entirely new, something that you have not created before. And. It really is a process of change.

[00:03:58] The first step in all of [00:04:00] this that when, when we’re on this journey, we think, oh no, okay, I gotta change my diet, I gotta change my work hours, I gotta change all these things. We’re looking very externally, but what I’m encouraging you to do here and what my ladies and fearlessly conceived did. Is really look at the internal change because just as this baby is going to grow inside of your body, or if you’re working with a surrogate growing inside of the surrogate, this is truly, and this actually dovetails beautifully with the interview that we did with Dr.

[00:04:31] Zach Bush last week. Fertility is truly from the inside. Out and having the courage to take a look at your thoughts, your beliefs, your behaviors, your actions that lead to your results takes courage. And when we’re afraid and when we’re stuck in the mind rut that so many of us get into on this journey, we don’t wanna change.

[00:04:54] In fact, because of all the crazy change that may be going on in our bodies or we’re [00:05:00] changing clinics, it seems like there’s too much change. But in that process. We completely ignore the change that’s happening within us that is possible within us, that can help us facilitate the conception that we really want, the courage to change.

[00:05:17] The courage to say, you know what? The way that I have been doing this up to this point isn’t working. I am going to love myself. I am going to love my vision for my family enough to have the honesty to take a look and say. Is the way that I’m approaching this, is this actually lining up with what I truly value, who I want to be, what my vision is.

[00:05:42] Remember, a couple episodes ago we were talking about, do you really want this baby? Are you in it to win it? Are you doing the things that are really gonna set you up to win? What we’re doing here is looking at the courage to change. What if letting go of your need to control, [00:06:00] your need to just freak out over every little detail and, and need to know the answer to everything and your pattern of being and lack and scarcity.

[00:06:10] What if you having the courage to change all of that will give you the courage to conceive this baby, the courage to open up your heart to a different way of being the courage. To become more than what you are right now, to learn more about yourself, to be more on a daily basis, to open your heart to receive.

[00:06:34] And I wanna spend a moment talking about receiving, because this isn’t just, your hand is out, someone’s giving you something. No. This idea of having the courage to receive is really about having the courage to receive on a physical, mental, and spiritual level that. It’s not just about, okay, I’m ready to conceive.

[00:06:57] It’s really a demonstration of your [00:07:00] willingness to be open, to be vulnerable, to let go of the old patterns and step into an entirely new identity. When I think about the women in my fearlessly conceived program and who they were at the beginning of the year and who they are today, they have opened up so much.

[00:07:19] Of their ability to receive. And these are women that are already extremely successful in their professional careers. But what we do is take that and open that, let it blossom. Let them begin to explore an entirely different way of being so that they have the ability to start truly living the vision they have in their head.

[00:07:43] And so many of us, we get so caught up in, in what we think we should be doing, that we don’t have the courage to change and ask the kinds of questions that are in fact the catalyst of change. And when you start asking those, those [00:08:00] courageous questions, those sometimes dangerous questions, you begin to open up your perception in an entirely different way.

[00:08:08] You see yourself in a different way. You start to see yourself. As a professional woman who has an amazing career and a baby, this idea that you have to trade one for the other, or if you have a child, you can’t be as effective. It’s all of these lies that we tell ourselves and all of these limitations that really do belong to other people.

[00:08:29] So when you give yourself permission and open up your your courage and say, you know what? I wanna change this pattern. I deserve to live my fertility journey and frankly, my fricking life in a way that is going to be fostering courage. When I begin to spark that courage, this gives me the courage to open up my heart to conceive.

[00:08:54] Because so much of this journey, we face things that that cause us to wanna [00:09:00] shut down, that we start to get more afraid. We, we think about how much time, money, and opportunity and resources are going away that we just wanna hold onto what we have. It’s like pinching every little piece of what we got left.

[00:09:15] But that behavior is not courageous behavior. It’s fear-based behavior. And when you think of the very act of conceiving, however you end up doing that naturally, I-V-F-I-U-I, whatever works for you. There had to be a part of you that was so open in that moment that that baby whew, just comes right in.

[00:09:41] That, that little space that you opened up in your heart and say, you know what? I really am open. I am open, and I am not gonna strangle the life out of my fertility journey by needing to know every little detail, by agonizing over my cycle, [00:10:00] by nitpicking every little thing, I am going to open my heart and have the courage to open my heart to finally receive what it is that I want.

[00:10:11] This is something that can sound very esoteric, but it is a legitimate opening. And when you’re surrounded by other women that are committed to creating the same thing in their lives and believe in abundance. One woman’s success does not mean another woman’s failure. There’s just more success to be had.

[00:10:33] You put yourself in a position where you begin to see your life, your journey, your career, your love and your abundance in a completely different way. And. Everything on this journey starts with the courage to change. So many women get so angry at the change that they completely skip over the possibility that there is something happening for them Here.

[00:10:57] It’s only courageous women that are going to [00:11:00] take a moment and really say, I have the courage to change in this moment because the woman that I want to be is not down here. She’s up here with her baby. I am going to affirm this change in me. I’m gonna open up myself, and in the process of opening up my own courage, I open up a related level of courage that is gonna tell my mind, tell my body, tell my spirit it is safe for me to conceive this child.

[00:11:34] You conceiving this baby isn’t just physical. If it was just physical, all any of us would have to do is take our egg, take our partner’s sperm, and go into a lab, put ’em together, and we’d never think about it again. But there is this beautiful X factor that’s playing out in the background. You finding the courage to not only change, but have the courage to receive is [00:12:00] all linked to your willingness to be open.

[00:12:04] This baby, it’s all about openness, the courage to change, and the courage to receive. Do you have courage for both? They go right together. When you change and you allow yourself to become more than your fear, your doubt, your negativity, your shame, your jealousy, your competition, your lack and your scarcity, what you’re really saying to yourself, your body, your heart, your mind, your spirit is I am open.

[00:12:37] I’m gonna drop all of my judgements, all of my expectations, other than my expectation that the highest good is coming for me. That takes courage. So I wanna ask you. As you’re listening to this, and I know this is a slightly different tone for from what you hear from me, but I just spent a weekend with women that are [00:13:00] creating extraordinary things in their lives, looking out over the Pacific Ocean in a five star resort.

[00:13:06] ’cause that’s how we roll. My ladies are unapologetic about their love of luxury. Do you have the courage to stand in the truth about what you want? Do you have the courage? To stand in the truth about how you want to conceive what you wanna call in. When you are in that energy, you have the courage. You find the bits of courage.

[00:13:27] You may just need a millimeter of courage to get back on the right track, but are you giving yourself permission to have it? Think about what I’m saying here. Do you have the courage to conceive? Before you answer that question, think about the implications. You’re smart. Do you have the courage to conceive?

[00:13:52] Is your heart, is your mind? Is your body just shut down? And if so, what are the [00:14:00] changes that you need to make at this time to begin to open them back up? Is it time to get out of the story that it’s, it’s too late? You are too old, you’re too broken. You’ve tried for too long, you’ve tried too many times, and that you’re a failure.

[00:14:15] Is it time to have the courage to let go of the security blanket of your sucky mindset? So that something greater, something better, something truly extraordinary can come in so you can live a life that’s fearlessly conceived like my extraordinary Ladies do take a moment this week, mama, and ask yourself this question.

[00:14:41] It’s not a question that many people have the courage to ask, so I’m asking it here. You may have courage in so many different ways in your life. Do you have the courage to change? And more importantly, do you have the courage to [00:15:00] conceive? And if you want my help getting to the place where you have buckets of both, go to my website www.frommaybetobaby.com.

[00:15:11] We help women, extraordinary women move beyond the limits of fertility medicine. We help extraordinary women get and stay pregnant. Within 12 months, if that is your goal, if you are all freaking in when it comes to making the most of the next 12 months in your life to position yourself to finally get and stay pregnant, go to my website www.frommaybetwobaby.com.

[00:15:37] The mind and the body work together. You’ve heard so many of the women on this podcast. You’ve heard doctors, in fact, last week you heard from Dr. Zach Bush. This is no longer in the land of woowoo. Intelligent women who are success oriented on this journey are no longer ignoring their mindset. They learn to think, believe, and take action.

[00:15:59] Like a [00:16:00] woman who succeeds on this journey and my team and I are ready to help you do the same. Go to my website www.frommaybetwobaby.com, and don’t you dare forget mama. Have the courage to change. Have the courage to conceive because the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.

[00:16:20] Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.