When people don’t support your fertility journey, it can feel confusing, isolating, and unexpectedly painful—especially when those people are family, close friends, or longtime members of your inner circle.

You may find yourself thinking:

• Why can’t they understand this matters to me?

• Why do I feel judged, dismissed, or subtly discouraged?

• Why does talking to people I love suddenly feel emotionally exhausting?

Here’s the truth most women are never told:
When you choose to pursue motherhood intentionally—especially later in life, after loss, or against the odds—you are stepping onto a path that most people never walk. And when you change, your relationships often change too.

In this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Rosanne Austin breaks down what’s actually happening when people around you can’t or won’t get it—and why this experience is not a personal failure, a character flaw, or a sign that you’re “asking for too much.”

Instead, it’s often a sign of growth, evolution, and clarity.

You’ll learn why:

• Some people emotionally opt out when you start prioritizing your fertility journey

• Well-meaning loved ones can unintentionally become sources of stress

• Feeling unsupported doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong

• Wise women don’t argue, convince, or shrink—they respond strategically

This conversation is about emotional sovereignty, energetic boundaries, and protecting your nervous system while you’re doing one of the most meaningful things of your life: becoming the woman who creates her future family.

If you’ve ever felt torn between honoring your dreams and keeping the peace…
If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s okay to outgrow certain dynamics…
If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting more…

This episode will help you see your situation with clarity—and move forward with confidence.

If you’re new to this podcast, here’s why it’s smart AF to make what we’re sharing here a priority: Rosanne Austin is the world’s leading expert in Fertility Mindset Strategy for high-achieving women.

As a former prosecutor turned global fertility mindset strategist, she has helped women across the globe beat the fertility odds, conceive against statistics, and navigate their fertility journey with emotional mastery, confidence, and feminine power.

Rosanne specializes in the intersection of:

• Fertility mindset
• Stress physiology
• Emotional resilience
• Subconscious belief transformation
• High performing community-based support models for fertility
• Hormonal and nervous system regulation through mind-body practices

Her work blends science-backed lived psychology, neuroendocrinology, psychoneuro-immunology, identity transformation, and elite-level mentorship.

She is the authority for high performing women seeking clarity, confidence, emotional support, and mindset mastery during their fertility IVF, IUI, and natural TTC journeys.

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People often struggle to support fertility journeys because it challenges their own beliefs, fears, or unresolved regrets. Your decision to keep going, try again, or want more can make others uncomfortable—not because you’re wrong, but because your courage highlights paths they didn’t take.

Yes. It is extremely common for women on fertility journeys to feel misunderstood or unsupported, especially by people who have not experienced infertility, pregnancy loss, IVF, or delayed motherhood. This is a normal part of personal growth and life transition.

No. Feeling unsupported does not mean you’re making a bad decision. In many cases, it means you are evolving, prioritizing yourself, and stepping outside socially familiar expectations. Growth often creates temporary relational friction.

Wise women don’t argue, justify, or seek permission. Instead, they:

• Limit emotionally draining conversations

• Share selectively with safe people

• Focus on environments that regulate their nervous system

• Choose support over approval

You are not required to convince anyone in order to move forward.

Protecting your emotional energy means recognizing that your fertility journey is not a group project. It’s okay to:

• Create boundaries around what you share

• Step back from unsupportive dynamics

• Seek community with women who understand your goals

• Prioritize emotional safety over social comfort

This isn’t selfish—it’s strategic.

 Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve gotta have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy in the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility Mindset Master, former prosecutor and recovering type a control freak, perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat. The odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 360 1. Broken bump squad, what happens when the people you love can’t or won’t get it? Loves. I am super excited to be here with you this week as we wrap up the subject for now on the topic of community.

Over the past couple weeks, we’ve been talking about the emotional impact of community, why it’s important to have like-minded community around. The upside of being able to connect with women who really get it, as well as the overall impact of that sense of belonging, what it can do for our nervous system, our biology, our overall health and wellbeing.

It is massive if you haven’t figured it out by now. However, the elephant in the room is what happens when people that we know and trust and love up to this point. Simply can’t be part of our community as we live this journey. Or at least they’re making it difficult and it’s creating another avenue of stress for us where we’re gonna dive into that in this episode.

But before we get into any of that, if you have been under a rock or are not part of my email, community loves. We are having a three day retreat, September 13th, 14th, and 15th. Here in the Woodlands, Texas, it is the fearlessly, fertile, limitless retreat. Seats are going fast. This is going to be an incredible three days of real in-person community.

With me leading you through a transformation process that’s going to help you finally become limitless when it comes to your fertility journey. Your life and most definitely this next chapter of your purpose being a mom. Whether you’re just starting on your fertility journey, whether you are knee deep in it, there is something for you here.

If you have not gotten your seat, mama, do it quick or even providing the most amazing lunches and group experiences. Get your tickets now where we’ve included a link to the event in the show notes here. You do not wanna miss. This. There is nothing like it out there. That being said, let’s talk about what happens when your bump squad is broken.

I wanna tell you, it is completely normal to get into a place on this journey where it feels like some of the old standbys in your life, maybe your family. Friends, people that you’ve depended on when it comes to this journey, the love and support that you used to get from them, that sense of community, that sense of belonging, it’s just not there anymore.

I wanna assure you, this happens all the time. It happens in so many different ways. I wanna explain what’s actually happening here. The first thing that you have to remember, you are doing something very unusual by being on this journey. Look, chasing a dream, going after a dream, being in a pursuit of passion, and your dream of being a mom is going to make you very strange.

Most people give up on their dreams. I know that that sounds negative, but it’s a fricking fact. I remember the great Tony Robbins. At an event that I was at, that barely 15% of people would ever do anything with the things that he taught. And I remember hearing him say that and I was like, man, that that’s crazy.

Like nobody, nobody’s gonna take this information and really run like this tiny percentage. Well, that’s reflected in the way that people look at their lives, most people, because you’re already quite accomplished. If you’re listening to this podcast. We know you’re super fucking cool. You’ve got a ton of degrees.

You’re out there doing cool shit. Most people think that should be enough. But women like us, we want more there. There is a bit of a divergence between your path and the people that you know. We can feel a little bit of betrayal like, well, where are my people? My people are gone. No, your people are still there.

They just don’t fucking get what it is that you’re doing. That doesn’t make them bad. It just means that your path is starting to turn. You’re becoming the woman that’s saying yes to not only a socially acceptable education, a socially acceptable path. What is told is responsible and reasonable and smart.

You are starting to do things that are shaken up. Everybody around you. Paradigm you are becoming. The woman that has an education, has an amazing career, is having an impact on the community. And she’s going to do something crazy. She’s going to have a baby. On top of that, she’s gonna demand love. She’s gonna demand respect.

She’s gonna demand wealth, she’s gonna demand impact. Like this is top level shit. People won’t get it. And that’s all right. And I know at some level you might feel guilty like, who am I to want all this? Who am I to demand all this? Maybe I’m the weird one because my friends and family just don’t know what to do with me anymore.

They don’t have know how to relate to me. Well, newsflash, you are fucking weird. You are already weird for all of the reasons I told you, you’re a high achiever. You’re out there doing stuff going the extra mile that most people don’t. It is the exact. That has made you successful. That’s also gonna make you kind of weird.

There will be a point when the people that you know and the people that you love and trust just aren’t going to get it anymore. That’s not because they’re bad, it’s because your life isn’t taking a different turn and it’s all good, baby. They’re good. You are good. You have to respect this divergence in paths because it won’t be forever, at least we hope.

Alright, we’re gonna talk about that more in a second, but you will not be the same woman you are today as you are as a mom. This evolution out of some of our social circles, some of our connections, is a natural part of our personal evolution. That’s the first thing you are evolving and the sooner you wrap your head around the fact that your evolution is not a rejection of other people, it is just simply.

You accepting the truth that you’re changing, that’s gonna be the master stroke. Evolution is required. You are moving from just being a physician, just being an attorney, just being a scientist, just being an engineer to now wearing the hat of mom. And it’s exciting. Things are gonna change. But remember, evolution is progress.

It doesn’t mean that things are shit. Don’t go down that road. The second thing that you have to keep in mind. Is pruning is about priorities. Some people will naturally pull away from you as you uplevel your community. As you start to spend more time with people that get it, maybe stop judging the fact that you want it all, but instead encourage it.

Stoke those fires and all those amazing things that we talked about in the previous three episodes this year. That is a process and pruning is going to happen when you prune certain people back or out of your life. It’s really about what you make your priority. When you’re on this journey, there’s enough pressure on you to hurry up, get it done, get that positive pregnancy test, get across the finish line of your anatomical, scan the baby’s birth, make sure everything’s perfect, and then keep going.

You gotta jump right back into your grid. There’s so many pressures on us. That having the added pressure of having to evangelize what you’re doing to everybody around you. It’s an energy leak. It’s an energy drain. You’ve got your full-time job, you’ve got what you’re doing on this journey, and then you have to manage the emotions of all of these other people who don’t get what you’re doing.

Think you’re crazy to want to be a new mom at 55, which, you know, one of my miracle mamas. Was 54 when she gave birth and just turned 55, and her baby’s just a couple months old. She is legit a new mom at 55. The women in my groups know exactly who this is, and this week you’re gonna be able to hear her interview.

She had to go up against so many freaking haters and people that doubted her and thought she was nuts to be 55. Today is. Is decidedly different than what 55, 50 years ago was. She’s young, she’s vibrant, she’s successful, she’s a physician, like all of these amazing things. Of course, she has this built out life and she fucking wants more.

Most people are ready to retire at 55 or thinking about fucking retirement. She’s smart as fuck and is saying, no. How can I live my very fullest life? How can I have the kind of life that I will look back on 20 years from now and say, fuck Yeah. Because think about it, with all of the people that would typically give up on this journey when she’s 75, she’s gonna look back on her life and say, I have this beautiful adult daughter at 75.

I have this young woman that came into my life as a result of my courage to keep saying, yes, you can either be the woman at 75. Who is dying inside because of her regret. Or if you want to be like Vle, you are gonna be smiling. The biggest smile on your rocking chair. Or knowing Vaselina, she’s climbing a mountain at 75.

She’s gonna be thinking, I really live my life. I left this shit on the dance floor, like I gave all of my time, my energy and my love to the things that I cared about. That takes courage. That’s about pruning people out of your life that don’t believe in your vision. Sometimes we have to let those people go.

Pruning people out of your life. Is not about you being a pompous asshole or you not being loyal. It’s about priorities. We have a finite amount of time to have these babies. You have made everybody else the priority up to this point. Now you get to make yourself and your vision for your fricking life.

The priority pruning is about priority. So last thing that I want you to keep in mind. About what happens when we uplevel our community, when we decide to take risks, when we decide to become that woman, we surround ourselves with community that supports that. Like what happens to our existing community?

Here’s the deal. People don’t like change. People very often resist change. They, they resist that evolution, your change, your evolution, your progress. Is going to cause people to look at their own lives and say, shit, I really gave up on X, Y, Z. It makes people uncomfortable, but you have to understand your job is not to make people comfortable.

Your job is to live your purpose unapologetically. I’m gonna assume that everyone listening to this podcast is fucking kind a decent human being. They’re out there putting in the time to make their community better. The fact that you decide to make your desires the priority and prune some people out.

Doesn’t make you an asshole. It makes you focused. It makes you clear and it makes you a person of integrity because not everyone’s gonna come with us. Not everyone can. Don’t take on other people’s limitations. Don’t take on other people’s stories about what it is that you’re doing. Most people will look at our lives through the lens of their own limitations.

Some people will look at Vaseline’s story and think to themselves. Oh my gosh. I wouldn’t wanna have an infant at 55. Well, that’s because that person just doesn’t value that. That doesn’t mean that what Vaselina did is crazy or stupid. By all accounts, she’s the happiest motherfucker. She knows that’s because she said yes to herself and her vision.

Let’s say you’re 50 and you wanna have a baby. Let’s say you’re 45, and the past 10 years have been failed cycles of IVF, but you have the courage to keep going. You have to understand, most people are not gonna get that. Most people are not gonna like that, and most people will be reminded of their own quitting pattern.

People will think about the ways in their lives that they have quit, but that’s not your fucking problem. Stay in your lane. Stay. Focused and, and drop the judgment. People get to think whatever they want about their life. Maybe your paths will intersect again at some time when they’ve had some growth.

You just never know When it comes to your community, it’s fricking everything. You do not need anyone in your life, in your world, in your experience, unless they’re gonna love you for who you are and support. Dream. You don’t need energy leaks with you having to manage five other people’s emotions about what you are doing.

We’re all fucking grownups. You’re trying to have a baby not be one. I want to leave you with a tool and a strategy that you can keep close by. When you find yourself possibly feeling this push, pull this tug about your old community as you build a new one. I want you to keep this refrain close by and it’s this.

I’m changing because I choose to. I’m changing because I choose to. My baby is on the other side of my change. I am becoming the woman who has it all. Think about it ladies. When you get into a place where you say, I’m changing because I’m choosing to, and my baby is on the other side of my change. My evolution brings in my baby.

Think about how it feels in your body. You can start to look at the uncertainty that can come up when our community changes with excitement, with a sense of empowerment, and most definitely adventure. Don’t get into a place of worry, get into a place of excitement when you start to change on the other side of that change.

Is your baby. And if you want my help with that change, go to my website, www from maybe to baby.com. Apply for an interview there. My methodology, as you have seen over 360 episodes, has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. And if you don’t have a mindset strategy for success, baby.

What are you doing? You’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. It’s time to fix that shit and be the woman who beats the odds. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Don’t forget, get your seat for the Fearlessly Fertile, limitless Retreat. See you soon, baby. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast.

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