On this podcast, I typically focus on light subjects and keep things positive and fun around being single and dating.  However, I think it's important to keep in mind we can't be happy and healthy singles if we haven't learned from our past.  In this episode, I share many stories of narcissism and triangulation I encountered during my second marriage.  

As I am still learning and healing from divorce, I know many of you are too.  I tried to record in a way to relate to the challenges of co-parenting with difficult people.  If you've never done life with someone toxic, you'll get a lot of insights on what to look for and avoid as you date.

To begin, I share several real examples of narcissist traits I recognized in my husband's first wife:

• Obsessive Control
• Manipulation/Lying
• Portraying a clean public image
• Private emotionally abusive behavior 
• Public displays of charity and gift giving for adoration & praise of others 
• Golden Child
• Triangulation in Communication

My reactions and responses to these behaviors were not always polite. I broke a few times throughout the years and did not always "take the high road".  I  scoffed, glared, rolled my eyes, and on a couple of occasions, I yelled.  Although I went to therapy throughout my marriage, I never developed the tools to intervene or advocate for my stepdaughters in a way that would bring lasting change. I hope that this podcast helps those of you in a similar situation. 

 If you've never done life with someone toxic, you'll get a lot of insights into traits to watch out for and avoid as you date and enter into relationships.  We can all learn from my mistakes together! 

In Ep 40 (Pt 2), my friend, Emma Wood, a Licensed Clinical Therapist, does a magnificent job of clinically explaining Narcissism, Triangulation, and Gas Lighting. 

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