Did you know that you are naturally confident? Sometimes we lose track because our environment can bring our confidence down. It is easier to build our confidence when we know what is holding us back.

Episode Transcript

Intro

Hey there and welcome to I Can, I Am, I Will, the world’s number one podcast for confidence and self-empowerment. Woot woot. This is our 4th episode in our 100 podcasts in 100 days series.

Welcome, I am Lyndsey, your confidence coach. And here together, with this podcast, we will discuss how you can stop limiting yourself to build your confidence and achieve great things. You are going to do the things. That things that you want to do that make you happy. You are going to achieve your goals with actionable advice and simply with us opening the conversation around confidence. And today I want to talk about what it means when I say that we are digging up your confidence.

Finding Your Confidence

So in the previous two episodes I referenced that you have confidence within you all along. Because you do. Every single person has a natural ability to be confident. And when I say we are digging it up, I mean that we are shuffling things around. We’re doing mindset shifts. We’re creating positive self-talk and we are helping you to find that confidence that is within you but has just been buried or pushed to the side. And in order for us to dig it up, we need to figure out why it was buried.

So today I’m going to talk to you about certain reasons as to why you may not be feeling as confident as you would like or as confident as you naturally are. And the first reason is because you could not have been taught. The people who brought you up, your parents or your guardians, people around you may not have known themselves how to be confident. They might not of had confidence or self-assurance within themselves. So then how were they going to teach you? Especially if they didn’t realize the importance of confidence. They might not even realize it. That that’s something they need. So why are they going to teach you something that they don’t know? That they even need?

And another reason why we may not have confidence is because of this world and this culture and this society. This is not a society that encourages confidence. It is rough out there. There are people who think that negative criticism is the same as constructive criticism. I know. I’ve met them. No, it’s not the same.

Confidence from Criticism

Constructive criticism helps people. It helps them build themselves up by realizing what they aren’t doing right and correcting it. Negative criticism doesn’t help anyone build anyone up. Because all it does is say negative things about a person. And that can bring your confidence down. Especially if you are trying to build your confidence. Because when you are trying to build your confidence it is very helpful to have a certain particular area in which you feel confident. And then you can utilize those feelings of confidence in that area to help you in other areas. But if you haven’t gotten that feedback or that constructive criticism, and you aren’t feeling confident in really any area, then it’s going to be rough for you to build that confidence.