In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend, Licensed Clinical Therapist, Emma Wood, about narcissism, triangulation, and gas lighting. 
I share experiences from my second marriage with Emma to gain a better understanding of these traits and behaviors as they relate to divorce and co-parenting.  Emma beautifully articulates:

• Why triangles form as a result of  conflict between two people
• Why narcissists are prone to seek and thrive in triangulation
• How triangulation affects children when put in the middle of two parents
• What gas lighting is
• Why people may use gas lighting as a manipulation tactic
• How gas lighting makes a vulnerable or dependent person feel
• The need to work on one's identity

Lastly, I share a  triumphant (silly!) story of confronting the person in my life who I consider to be a narcissist. It wasn't until I had separation from her and rebuilt my confidence that I had the courage to say anything to her face. Low and behold... without my ex husband relaying messages between us or a phone screen to hide behind, she was timid and silent! Oh how I wish I had communicated differently with her all of those years I was silenced!

My hope is that as you make new friends and date, you will be cognizant of these personality disorders and manipulative behaviors so that you can make better choices than I did when faced by them.  I'm so grateful I know what flags to look for now and I AVOID the flags at all cost.  My daughter and I are enjoying a peaceful life and I won't risk disrupting that. 

If you share life with someone similar to what we discuss in this podcast, my advice is that you seek tools, resources, and therapy to support you.  

Emma's practice is Thalia Therapy and Wellness Centerlocated at the Saint Lukes Multispecialty Clinic- Mission Farms.  https://www.thaliacenter.com/

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