Rejection can get us off our game, especially if we are building confidence. Thankfully there are mindset shifts we can do to help us maintain confidence after rejection.

Episode Transcript

Intro

Hey there and welcome to, I Can, I Am, I Will. The world’s number one podcast for confidence and self-empowerment. This is the 6th episode in our 100 podcasts in 100 days series. I love that. I love how we’re just trucking along.

Welcome I’m Lyndsey. I’m your confidence coach. And here with this podcast together we’re going to discuss how you can stop limiting yourself to build your confidence and achieve goals. I want to give you mindset shifts, and actionable advice in an approachable compassionate environment. Because I’ve been there. I’ve been the person who did not feel so confident at all. And I needed help. And I was able to establish confidence. And it feels good. I want you to have that.

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Finding You Confidence

Alright, let’s dive right in. So the previous two episodes we talked about digging up your confidence and what that means. And digging up your confidence is the idea that you have confidence inside of you all along. It is your birthright. However, during your life, you may have not been encouraged to be confident, or you may not have been taught, or have known how to be confident. And instances could have happened that have hurt your confidence. So now we need to dig it up. We need to move things around, do some mindset shifts, go into that story that we tell about ourselves, reflect on past experiences and figure out where we lost our confidence.

And maybe you were never taught how to build it to begin with. That is OK too. Because when we go through previous experiences in which things have happened that hurt our confidence we can work through those experiences. And then we become confident and you have this confidence in you. You got it kid. You got what you need. Everyone has what they need. We’re just going to dig it up. It has been pushed aside.

Maintaining Confidence After Being Rejected

And yesterday I talked about rejection, and I talked about rejection in the form of us being rejected for being who we are—maybe if you were called weird for liking something that other people didn’t like. And now I want to talk about rejection in the form of being rejected by other people. Maybe for a school, or a job interview, or a love interest, or a writing competition, or any kind of competition. Rejection hurts. And it can hurt our confidence if we let it. So the reason why rejection hurts is because of an outdated primal instinct.

So rejection, it takes up the same part of our brain and triggers the same pain response as if we are physically hurt. That’s why rejection hurts so bad. It can feel as bad as physical pain, because the same part of our brain is being activated. And that is because when we were hunting, hunter gatherers, and there were sabretoo