Lately, it feels like everyone is going through it. Breakups, almost-relationships, and endings. We talk a lot about the October Theory, but I think December has its own heartbreak.

In this episode, I’m talking about breakups, rejection, and pain that doesn’t always come from the person themselves, but from the uncertainty, the anxious attachment, and the stories we build in our heads. The times where you look back and wonder whether you were heartbroken or just deeply triggered.

I talk about limerence, anxious attachment, and how easy it is to confuse intensity with connection. About grieving potential, ignoring red flags, and taking rejection so personally that it starts to rewrite how you see yourself.

We get into why I believe in clean cuts, closed loops, and removing access, why staying ‘friends’ can keep you stuck in an emotional loop, and why learning to be alone is sometimes the most grounding thing you can do.

This isn’t about pretending you don’t want love, or convincing yourself you’re above it all. It’s about putting yourself back at the centre, rebuilding your sense of self, and learning how to be okay without needing someone else to validate you.

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