We’re more self-aware than ever, but knowing better doesn’t always mean doing better. In this episode, I explore the gap between insight and action, how self-awareness can become a comfort zone, and why real change often comes down to unglamorous daily choices rather than big breakthroughs.

Lately, it feels like everyone is going through it. Breakups, almost-relationships, and endings. We talk a lot about the October Theory, but I think December has its own heartbreak.

In this episode, I’m talking about breakups, rejection, and pain that doesn’t always come from the person themselves, but from the uncertainty, the anxious attachment, and the stories we build in our heads. The times where you look back and wonder whether you were heartbroken or just deeply triggered.

I talk about limerence, anxious attachment, and how easy it is to confuse intensity with connection. About grieving potential, ignoring red flags, and taking rejection so personally that it starts to rewrite how you see yourself.

We get into why I believe in clean cuts, closed loops, and removing access, why staying ‘friends’ can keep you stuck in an emotional loop, and why learning to be alone is sometimes the most grounding thing you can do.

This isn’t about pretending you don’t want love, or convincing yourself you’re above it all. It’s about putting yourself back at the centre, rebuilding your sense of self, and learning how to be okay without needing someone else to validate you.

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In this episode of the unwrittn pod, I’m talking about something I’ve been wrestling with all year: visibility wounds. The strange mix of wanting to be seen and being completely terrified of it at the same time.

I get into how our fear of perception shapes the way we create, try new things, and even show up online. For most of my life, I avoided sharing anything: my writing, my ideas, even the things I cared about, because the thought of people actually watching me try felt unbearable. This year, for the first time, I started posting my work consistently, and it forced me into that awkward phase no one talks about. Where you’re still figuring out your voice, where silence feels personal, and where everything in you wants to delete the post five minutes after uploading it.

I talk about why that silence isn’t failure, why our nervous systems mistake visibility for danger, and why the pressure to be ‘perfect from day one’ is stopping so many of us from ever getting good at the thing we love. I also get into the wider culture around content, how we’ve become obsessed with being seen rather than becoming skilled, and why embracing the slow, private part of the journey is where your real voice actually forms.

This episode is a reminder that you’re allowed to be a beginner and take up space. And you’re allowed to build something meaningful long before anyone is paying attention.

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In this episode of ‘the unwrittn pod’, we tackle the big, slightly terrifying question: “What is my purpose?” Spoiler: we still don’t have a grand answer – but we do have thoughts on why hunting for one might be what’s actually stressing you out. We talk about breaking “purpose” down into different areas of life: career, friendships, relationships, and who you are to yourself, so it feels less like an existential crisis and more like something you can actually work with.Bella shares how running a half marathon and volunteering at a SeriousFun camp shifted her perspective on privilege, meaning, and giving back. Ramona talks about writing, making her magazine on connection, and how seeing her work resonate with people felt like a quiet nudge towards something that matters. We also get into sea turtle sanctuaries in Thailand, mindful choices as consumers, and why small, conscious actions are basically puzzle pieces in a much bigger picture.Across the episode, we question the obsession with courses and e-books that promise to “reveal your purpose”, and instead shift the focus to a better question: What actually fulfils you? We leave you with some gentle prompts, from noticing what feels like friction in your life, to writing a short list of things you want to try, so you can build a life you’re proud of, without needing to have it all figured out first.Instagram: unw.rittn

In this episode of ‘the unwrittn pod’, we talk about what it actually feels like to be in your 20s: the uncertainty, the pressure to “be further ahead,” and the panic that everyone else seems to have a plan you somehow missed.

We talk expectations vs. reality, why timelines we built at 16 rarely survive adulthood, how easy it is to measure your worth against someone else’s wins, and the art (and discomfort) of saying “no” when you’re used to being agreeable. From career pivots and friendship shifts to dating misfires and that strange moment where you realise no one’s actually keeping score, we’re unpacking it all.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should have figured more out by now,” you’re in the right place.

🎧 Listen in, and feel free to share your own 20s stories with us for future episodes.

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Description:In this episode of The Unwrittn Pod, Ramona and Bella get candid about what relationships have taught them — from the early dating stages to long-term love and everything in between. Drawing from their own experiences (and a few pop culture references, of course), they unpack six key lessons: why not everyone’s meant to stay forever, how small actions reveal big truths, what dating teaches you about yourself, and why love alone isn’t always enough.

They also challenge the idea that every breakup needs a “villain,” and get honest about one of the hardest truths — that people aren’t mind readers, and communication is everything.

It’s raw, funny, and a little too relatable. Whether you’re single, dating, or deep in a relationship, this one’s for you.

🎧 Listen in, and don’t forget to join the next Instagram poll to help pick the next episode topic.

This one’s all about self-worth — what it is, how it shapes every part of your life, and why sometimes it feels easier to stay stuck. We talk about consistency, old wounds, small acts of kindness, and learning to see yourself as deserving, even when it’s hard.

Endings are uncomfortable — but they’re also inevitable. In this episode, we dive into how to recognise when something (a job, a relationship, a habit) has run its course, and what it really takes to let go. We talk about the privilege behind “if it no longer serves you, let it go,” the fear of uncertainty, the mourning period after change, and how to know if a feeling is temporary dissatisfaction or a deeper signal that it’s time to move on.

Episode 1 of Unwrittn.

A conversation on beginnings, identity, connection, and what it really means to create something from nothing. We talk about starting Unwrittn, the doubts that come with it, and the stories behind our first two issues: In the In-Between and The Lines That Link Us.

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