It's not enough to know what you don't want. I don't want to depressed, I don't want to feel anxious, I don't want a crappy marriage, I don't want to be fat, etc.

It's much better to be able to frame your goals and vision in the positive. I want great mental health, I want to love my body, I want an amazing marriage, etc.

It might sound like it's semantics, but it's really not. For example if you're 'not depressed,' that's better than being depressed, but it doesn't eliminate anxiety, psychosis, mania and other negative mental states. However, if the goal or target is great mental health - then that assumes no depression, no anxiety, no mood swings, etc.

I might sound like a little difference, but in my experience it's these little changes in the way we say it or want it that make the biggest difference.

-Dr. K