Meet Nafisa, a queer woman in her late 20’s. Being queer is central to the trauma of her life - her mother doesn’t know and thus cannot accept her. She ends her interview reflecting on this loss - the loss of never being known by those who are supposed to know you most fully.

Nafisa struggles with her emotions throughout our conversation. She’s worries that she cannot be soft enough or authentic enough. Her worries remind me of Dr. Adele Lafrance reminder of the wisdom of the block. Sometimes we judge ourselves for not feeling, and we curse the blockages that prevent our feelings from fully getting out. But there can be a wisdom in this. Perhaps we are not ready. Perhaps the feelings are too real. Perhaps we can learn to see the wisdom in this blockage. Perhaps we can be patient with ourselves. Perhaps we can be patient with the feelings that are too big to feel.