In this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel explores what it means for women to “misbehave with integrity,” inspired by Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ The Late Bloomer.

This episode is about good girl conditioning, people-pleasing, self-trust, over-functioning, emotional labour, and the quiet resentment that builds when women keep choosing propriety over honesty.

Shantel unpacks the difference between being proper and being ethical, why women often delay decisions they’ve already made, and why acting without cruelty, manipulation, or deliberate harm may be the permission you’ve been waiting for.

Topics include: Good girl conditioning, People-pleasing and resentment

Self-trust and decision-making, Emotional labour in relationships

Over-functioning in friendships, family, work, and dating

Why “I should” keeps women stuck, Becoming less likeable but more honest

Referenced in this episode:

The Late Bloomer by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

Episode 012: Big Energy, No Apology

Episode 027: The Rules Are Made Up

Episode 038: The Rebrand Era

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