Navigating Relationship Conflicts with Aven Barbosa

"I cannot fix it for anyone."

Summary
In this episode of The Check-In With Podcast, host Calvin Anderson speaks with Aven Barbosa, a licensed associate professional counsellor, about her journey from real estate to therapy. Aven shares insights on understanding conflict in relationships, the importance of attachment styles, and how to navigate feelings of rejection. They discuss the negative cycles that can occur in relationships and the unique approach of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in creating safety and connection. Aven emphasizes the importance of curiosity, validation, and communication in therapy and relationships, while also addressing common fears and misconceptions about seeking help.

Takeaways
Aven felt a calling to be a therapist for many years.
Conflict often masks deeper emotional needs in relationships.
Attachment styles influence how partners react in conflict.
The negative cycle in relationships is not about blame but about patterns.
Feeling rejected often leads to either pursuit or withdrawal in partners.
Secure attachment does not mean no conflict; it means effective repair.
Creating safety in therapy involves slowing down and validating feelings.
Couples often fear that one partner is to blame for issues.
Therapists provide tools but do not fix problems for clients.
Continuous learning is essential in the field of therapy.

To get in touch with Aven please use the following:

https://www.keycounselingatl.com/