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Episode 103 - Boundaries Series: How to communicate your boundaries

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Communicating boundaries is an important part of the whole process. However, there may be a lot of hesitation regarding how to go about it that may prevent us from setting the boundary in the first place. Today we go through how to communicate a boundary, how to ask about other people’s boundaries and how setting boundaries can create more possibilities for our relationships.

In this episode, we cover…

  • How our boundaries get crossed frequently throughout our life, especially when we are children
  • How boundaries are crossed more in BBIMP (black, brown, indigenous and myelinated people coined by @AccordingToWeeze), transgender and other people in the LGBTQIA+ community or people who have a disability
  • How we are taught that our boundaries will be crossed and society doesn’t care
  • How we internalize our boundaries being consistently crossed as not being worthy of having our boundaries respected
  • How this may prevent us from communicating our boundaries
  • How enforcing our boundaries means that we are respecting our Value Need
  • How we do not have to communicate our boundaries if we do not feel that it is safe for us to do so
  • How a person with an unmet Personal Power Need might try to exert control over someone else by crossing their boundaries
  • A reminder that boundaries are not fixed, but change a lot of the time
  • How we need to be good at communicating what our boundaries are in the moment
  • How communicating boundaries may help us distance ourselves from situations or people we are not comfortable with but how they can also help to bring us closer to the people we wish to be more intimate with
  • How the way we communicate our boundaries makes a difference in the way they are received
  • The importance of making the boundary about us, our feelings and our needs when communicating it to the other person 
  • The importance of explaining how the boundary we set will benefit the other person and letting them know if it is only relevant to where you’re at in that moment
  • How we don’t owe anyone any explanation and how it is our choice to offer one
  • How we might want to explain a boundary to the people closest to us as soon as we are aware of them
  • How communicating hard boundaries is best done ahead of time, in a neutral emotional space and why this is beneficial
  • Why we need to say “thank you” when when someone is setting a boundary with us 
  • How boundaries are one of the tools a creator uses to shape their relationships
  • How having a relationship with someone who wants to know what our boundaries are and co-create boundaries that work for us can strengthen the relationship
  • How we don’t have to wait for someone to communicate a boundary with us. We can ask
  • How when we are good at setting boundaries, people will come to us more 
  • How expectations and boundaries are closely related
  • How boundaries can create possibilities
  • How the more we set boundaries, the easier it gets and how we may want to introduce boundaries around small things first
  • How stating boundaries in a matter-of-fact way makes it less personal
  • How setting boundaries is a constant learning process
  • How having small boundaries honored can build trust
  • The importance of taking care of ourselves and the needs that have been impacted when one of our boundaries is crossed before you communicate about it if we can
  • The importance of having actions in mind if one of our boundaries is crossed and how there can be steps to those actions
  • How the action you take when a boundary is crossed doesn't necessarily need to be communicated and how that action might change depending on the situation
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