Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 148 - "How to find your needs "big hitters"" is now LIVE!

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Given that everything we do every second of every day is done in an attempt to get our needs met, you would think it would be easy to know what things would have the most impact. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case. Especially when we are in a state of coping, it's not always easy to recognize the things that will REALLY meet our needs and make the noticeable difference within us. Join us on today's episode where we discuss finding, and remembering, the "big hitters" that can make the big difference.

In this episode we cover:

- Claire's "self-care" getaway

- Taking the 80/20 rule and making it a 95/5

- Finding your "big hitters"

- Combining little things to create a big needs impact

- The whimsy of Woody T. Box

- How habits and patterns can prevent us from fully meeting our needs

- Making an appointment to meet your needs

- Why we often don't do the things to support our needs

- Being students of our work

- Noticing the physical indicators of nourishment

- Recognizing when you're masking your needs

Episode References:

- The episode where we reference "power ups" - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety

- The episode where we talk about the Red-Green Spectrum - Episode 3 - I need to do WHAT?

- The "But" episode - Episode 143 - Get your But out of here

- The episode where we talk about the levels of competence - 134 - What if feedback could be the ultimate gift?

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 147 - "How much emotion should you show children?" is now LIVE!

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Emotions can play a big role in cultivating a relationship of trust and transparency with children. Tune into this week's episode where we discuss how connecting with and expressing your emotions can better equip your child with the ability to connect with, process and flow with their own.

In this episode we cover:

- The connection between emotionality and honesty

- How being open with our emotions can help to children learn to process

- What happens when children aren't witnessing emotions

- Showing children the process of emotionality

- Using emotions as teachable moments

- Smelling the flowers and blowing out the candles

- Validating emotions to children

- Supporting your child's needs through supporting your own

- Giving permission to feel emotion

- Showing the full spectrum of emotion

- Teaching children to expressing their emotions in selfirst ways

- Allowing ourselves to be messy

- The importance of dialog with emotion

Episode References:

- Our last episode - Episode 146 - How honest should you be with children?

- The emotional tunnel episode - Episode 32 - Why (generally speaking) there are no such thing as negative emotions

Trigger Warning - Serious, life threatening assault

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 146 - "How honest should you be with children" is now LIVE!

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If there is a little in your life, chances are the question of how honest to be with them has come up. In today's episode we sift through some of the nuance that surrounds this topic. We'll also discuss how cultivating a relationship of transparency and trust between a caregiver and child can serve to keep a child safe and potentially bring them to their greatest joy.

In this episode we cover:

- The relationship between honesty and our Security Need

- What can happen when we try to protect children in the short term

- The three types of honesty

- When the truth bomb goes off

- Protecting a child's relationship with the other parent

- Age appropriate focus and approaches

- What happens when we aren't honest with children

- The impact of a caregiver's unmet needs on their child

- The importance of information for a child

- Cultivating safety, trust and an honest relationship with a child

- Our responsibility as caregivers

- The long-term effect of placing trust in children

- Gaslighting children

- Teaching children to notice "red flags" and trust themselves

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 145 - "When your help is actually a hinderance" is now LIVE!

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It can be challenging for us to know what we need to meet our needs at any given moment and yet we often forget this, especially when it comes to suggestions. We can be so eager to jump in and "help" that we don't realize we could not only be negatively impacting the person we're trying to support but also our relationship with them and our own needs as well. Tune into this week's episode where we will discuss how to better support those around you while supporting yourself in the process.

In this episode we cover:

- Compromising our needs to meet our needs

- Mr. Razzle Dazzle's first on screen cameo

- When wanting to help and support can have the opposite effect

- Getting buried in noodles

- The fundamental components to offering help

- The impact suggestions can have on your relationships

- What it means to throw noodles

- Claire learns about the "Oooodea" for the first time

- Enacting our Personal Power

- Timing is everything

- How options, and how their managed, can affect your relationship orbits

- The importance of asking questions

- The ideal number of options

- Embracing the weird

- Avoiding rescuer mode

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about the relationship orbits - Episode 17 - What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come

- The episode where we talk about impact over intention - Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn’t matter…

- The feedback episode - 134 - What if feedback could be the ultimate gift?

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 144 - "The importance of befriending your rage" is now LIVE!

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Rage is a valid human emotion that we are often taught to repress and ignore. The power of rage can be scary and it doesn't have to be destructive. Tune in to today's episode to find out how to harness its power to begin making positive and constructive change for yourself and others.

In this episode we cover:

- Claire's Rage Room experience and her weapon of choice

- The social perception of rage and what that does to our needs

- The truth about anger management

- The importance of processing mentally, physically and emotionally

- Channeling, processing and expressing rage in selfirst ways

- Claire's tip toe through Serena's mine field of a question

- Directing your rage towards others

- How to protect your needs when rage is present

- Techniques to express rage and feel it more fully

- The importance of intentionality

- The path to forgiveness

- The effects of allowing ourselves to feel anger and rage

- Channeling range and anger to create positive and constructive change

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about somatic processing - Episode 118 - I feel like I want to be angry but I don't know why

- The episodes where we talk about processing your emotions - Episode 64 - When rising above can bite you in the ass and Episode 68 - That’s not rambling, it’s meeting your needs

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 143 - "Get your But out of here" is now LIVE!

Trigger Warning: Drowning

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We find that people often put their buts where they don't belong, and no, that's not a typo. But may seem like such an insignificant word and that one word can change the entire meaning of a sentence. Tune in to find out if you might be putting your but in the wrong place and the negative impact that can be having to your conversations and your relationships.

In this episode we cover:

- One of the biggest language shifts you can make

- How Claire feels about exclamation points

- What but actually does to your sentence

- Claire's introduction to School House Rock

- Why we're so quick to use the word but

- Subconscious usage and unconscious affects

- Keeping the but out of customer service

- The difference a language shift makes

- Validating vs invalidating language

- The stages of shifting language

- The connection between but and trauma

- Creating closer relationships by shifting your language

- Removing other people's buts

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about shifting language - Episode 40 - Let's absolutely lose the absolutes (although not ALWAYS absolutely...)

- The C word episode - Episode 19 - The C-word

- The episode where we talk about defensiveness - Episode 82 - Conflict Series: How to take the conflict out of (some) conversations

- The episode where we talk about the different types of trauma - Episode 86 - Trauma Series: What is trauma?

- The relationship orbits episode - Episode 17 - What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 142 - "How to cope when it feels like the world is falling apart" is now LIVE!

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We're in some strange times and many people are struggling with not only is going on in their own lives, but in their wider community and the world as a whole. So, what can you do to hold yourself together when it feels as though everything is falling apart around you? In today's episode we talk about the little things that you can do to help meet your needs and cope, and how those little things can make a big difference.

In this episode we cover:

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So often we sacrifice our wellbeing because we think it is expendable. We're conditioned to muster up and push through even if it compromises our needs in the process. Not only are we compromising our needs, they are often screaming at us to be met. In today's episode we discuss the warning signs your body may be giving you that your needs are unmet and how to use your body, and your other needs, as a guide to creating something even better.

In this episode we cover:

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The terms FOMO and JOMO have become buzz words over the years and even if you aren't aware of what they mean, you may be experiencing the effects of them. Join us for today's episode where we will discuss the fear and joy of missing out, introduce the lesser known members of the OMO family and help to find the balance so you feel less anticipation and anxiety and feel more alignment and fulfillment.

In this episode we cover:

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"You're so strong". It's a compliment that's meant to encourage and support, especially during trying times. What if we told you that telling someone they are strong may not have the positive impact you're intending, in fact, it could have just the opposite. Join us today as we discuss what this phrase really means, the impact it can have on us and what we can do differently that will actually be supportive.

In this episode we cover:

- How do we know someone is a strong person?

- What we're actually saying when we tell people they're strong

- What we can say instead

- Why we think strength is a compliment

- The power in acknowledging where someone is at

- The consent tea analogy and what consent has to do with these types of "compliments"

- Why we use strength as a compliment

- Reading the room

- How this has impacted Claire given what she's dealing with

- Different variations of strength

- Why our internal dialogs about strength can be detrimental

- The point where compliments turn into criticisms

- Avoiding the shame spiral

- How we can better support the people in our lives

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about acknowledgment during grieving - Episode 76 - Grief Series - How to support grieving

- The episode where we talk about the emotional tunnel is Episode 32 - Why (generally speaking) there are no such thing as negative emotions

- The episode where we talk about witnessing - Episode 96 - What to do when they’re not OK Series: How to support without rescuing

- Guilt and shame series - Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shame; Episode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguise; Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity

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