Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 151 - "What Bieber, a bucket and Bourdain have to do with needs" is now LIVE!

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It may sound like the setup for a joke, but today's episode really isn't a laughing matter. So often people act without regard to who will have to deal with the consequences of their choices, actions and behaviors. In today's episode we put a needs lens on a celebrity situation and discuss the ripple effect we have on those around us

In this episode we cover:

- Why we are talking about Bieber, a bucket and Bourdain

- Reasonable expectations

- Superiority and the workforce

- The ripple effect of our actions

- Why wouldn't you help someone?

- Respecting community

- The emotional impact and ripple effect our emotions can have

- The unconscious spiral that's created by not realizing the negative impact to our needs

- Tapping into what sits in our subconscious

Episode References:

- The last episode about judgement - Episode 150 - Why "We listen and we don't judge is so problematic

- The Britney episode - Episode 122 - We are all human

- Episode 149 - The ONLY thing you owe other people

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 150 - "Why "We listen and we don't judge" is SO problematic" is now LIVE!

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Viral trends are a dime a dozen and one in particular has caught our eye. On today's episode we're diving into the viral trend "We listen and we don't judge". Join us as we discuss how this seemingly nonjudgemental space can prove to be harmful and act to undermine the trust of relationships, eventually pulling them apart.

In this episode we cover:

- The "We listen and we don't judge" trend

- Is judging people a bad thing?

- What can happen when spaces are labeled "nonjudgemental"

- Social norms and the expectations related to trends

- How trends like this can harm your relationships

- Why is this trend so problematic?

- Shielding to avoid consequences

- The vicious cycle that can be created

- What dodgeball has to do with it

- The missed opportunity for deeper connection and healing

- Why it's a little culty

- How we unconsciously undermine our relationships

- Why we allow people to judge us

Episode References:

- The episode from our friendship series - Episode 60 - Friendship Series: Having the hard conversations and getting comfortable with being uncomfortable

- The steps to an apology episode - Episode 16 - Apology Series: How to apologize (and why sorry isn't enough)

- The clearing niggles episode - Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing Niggles

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 149 - "The ONLY thing you owe other people" is now LIVE!

*Trigger Warning - Example of a man seriously compromising woman's needs

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Social norms have many of us thinking that we owe others or that others owe us. Whether it is due to conditioning, a bid to be seen as polite or a sense of entitlement, there are many reasons we find ourselves expecting and abiding to these norms that don't always serve us. Join us on today's episode where we discuss what is the one thing we actually do owe to each other.

In this episode we cover:

- What is the one thing we actually owe others

- Societal expectations

- Creating a sense of obligation through an entitlement of response

- What social norms have to do with being polite

- When its a "you" problem

- What the patriarchy has to do with it

- The difference between being rude and being direct

- The toxicity of social norms

- The role choice plays in rudeness

- How consistently meeting our needs helps us to move away from societal norms

- What can happen if we don't honor where we're at (regardless of the social norm)

- Creating closer relationships by removing social norms that don't serve us

Episode References:

- The trauma episode - Episode 87 - Trauma Series: How do you identify trauma?

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 148 - "How to find your needs "big hitters"" is now LIVE!

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Given that everything we do every second of every day is done in an attempt to get our needs met, you would think it would be easy to know what things would have the most impact. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case. Especially when we are in a state of coping, it's not always easy to recognize the things that will REALLY meet our needs and make the noticeable difference within us. Join us on today's episode where we discuss finding, and remembering, the "big hitters" that can make the big difference.

In this episode we cover:

- Claire's "self-care" getaway

- Taking the 80/20 rule and making it a 95/5

- Finding your "big hitters"

- Combining little things to create a big needs impact

- The whimsy of Woody T. Box

- How habits and patterns can prevent us from fully meeting our needs

- Making an appointment to meet your needs

- Why we often don't do the things to support our needs

- Being students of our work

- Noticing the physical indicators of nourishment

- Recognizing when you're masking your needs

Episode References:

- The episode where we reference "power ups" - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety

- The episode where we talk about the Red-Green Spectrum - Episode 3 - I need to do WHAT?

- The "But" episode - Episode 143 - Get your But out of here

- The episode where we talk about the levels of competence - 134 - What if feedback could be the ultimate gift?

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 147 - "How much emotion should you show children?" is now LIVE!

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Emotions can play a big role in cultivating a relationship of trust and transparency with children. Tune into this week's episode where we discuss how connecting with and expressing your emotions can better equip your child with the ability to connect with, process and flow with their own.

In this episode we cover:

- The connection between emotionality and honesty

- How being open with our emotions can help to children learn to process

- What happens when children aren't witnessing emotions

- Showing children the process of emotionality

- Using emotions as teachable moments

- Smelling the flowers and blowing out the candles

- Validating emotions to children

- Supporting your child's needs through supporting your own

- Giving permission to feel emotion

- Showing the full spectrum of emotion

- Teaching children to expressing their emotions in selfirst ways

- Allowing ourselves to be messy

- The importance of dialog with emotion

Episode References:

- Our last episode - Episode 146 - How honest should you be with children?

- The emotional tunnel episode - Episode 32 - Why (generally speaking) there are no such thing as negative emotions

Trigger Warning - Serious, life threatening assault

*** Although not detailed or graphic, especially given the topic we are speaking about today, we understand this may be triggering to some viewers. This reference begins at timestamp 00:57:14 and ends at 01:02:36. ***

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 146 - "How honest should you be with children" is now LIVE!

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If there is a little in your life, chances are the question of how honest to be with them has come up. In today's episode we sift through some of the nuance that surrounds this topic. We'll also discuss how cultivating a relationship of transparency and trust between a caregiver and child can serve to keep a child safe and potentially bring them to their greatest joy.

In this episode we cover:

- The relationship between honesty and our Security Need

- What can happen when we try to protect children in the short term

- The three types of honesty

- When the truth bomb goes off

- Protecting a child's relationship with the other parent

- Age appropriate focus and approaches

- What happens when we aren't honest with children

- The impact of a caregiver's unmet needs on their child

- The importance of information for a child

- Cultivating safety, trust and an honest relationship with a child

- Our responsibility as caregivers

- The long-term effect of placing trust in children

- Gaslighting children

- Teaching children to notice "red flags" and trust themselves

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 145 - "When your help is actually a hinderance" is now LIVE!

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It can be challenging for us to know what we need to meet our needs at any given moment and yet we often forget this, especially when it comes to suggestions. We can be so eager to jump in and "help" that we don't realize we could not only be negatively impacting the person we're trying to support but also our relationship with them and our own needs as well. Tune into this week's episode where we will discuss how to better support those around you while supporting yourself in the process.

In this episode we cover:

- Compromising our needs to meet our needs

- Mr. Razzle Dazzle's first on screen cameo

- When wanting to help and support can have the opposite effect

- Getting buried in noodles

- The fundamental components to offering help

- The impact suggestions can have on your relationships

- What it means to throw noodles

- Claire learns about the "Oooodea" for the first time

- Enacting our Personal Power

- Timing is everything

- How options, and how their managed, can affect your relationship orbits

- The importance of asking questions

- The ideal number of options

- Embracing the weird

- Avoiding rescuer mode

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about the relationship orbits - Episode 17 - What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come

- The episode where we talk about impact over intention - Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn’t matter…

- The feedback episode - 134 - What if feedback could be the ultimate gift?

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 144 - "The importance of befriending your rage" is now LIVE!

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Rage is a valid human emotion that we are often taught to repress and ignore. The power of rage can be scary and it doesn't have to be destructive. Tune in to today's episode to find out how to harness its power to begin making positive and constructive change for yourself and others.

In this episode we cover:

- Claire's Rage Room experience and her weapon of choice

- The social perception of rage and what that does to our needs

- The truth about anger management

- The importance of processing mentally, physically and emotionally

- Channeling, processing and expressing rage in selfirst ways

- Claire's tip toe through Serena's mine field of a question

- Directing your rage towards others

- How to protect your needs when rage is present

- Techniques to express rage and feel it more fully

- The importance of intentionality

- The path to forgiveness

- The effects of allowing ourselves to feel anger and rage

- Channeling range and anger to create positive and constructive change

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about somatic processing - Episode 118 - I feel like I want to be angry but I don't know why

- The episodes where we talk about processing your emotions - Episode 64 - When rising above can bite you in the ass and Episode 68 - That’s not rambling, it’s meeting your needs

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 143 - "Get your But out of here" is now LIVE!

Trigger Warning: Drowning

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We find that people often put their buts where they don't belong, and no, that's not a typo. But may seem like such an insignificant word and that one word can change the entire meaning of a sentence. Tune in to find out if you might be putting your but in the wrong place and the negative impact that can be having to your conversations and your relationships.

In this episode we cover:

- One of the biggest language shifts you can make

- How Claire feels about exclamation points

- What but actually does to your sentence

- Claire's introduction to School House Rock

- Why we're so quick to use the word but

- Subconscious usage and unconscious affects

- Keeping the but out of customer service

- The difference a language shift makes

- Validating vs invalidating language

- The stages of shifting language

- The connection between but and trauma

- Creating closer relationships by shifting your language

- Removing other people's buts

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about shifting language - Episode 40 - Let's absolutely lose the absolutes (although not ALWAYS absolutely...)

- The C word episode - Episode 19 - The C-word

- The episode where we talk about defensiveness - Episode 82 - Conflict Series: How to take the conflict out of (some) conversations

- The episode where we talk about the different types of trauma - Episode 86 - Trauma Series: What is trauma?

- The relationship orbits episode - Episode 17 - What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 142 - "How to cope when it feels like the world is falling apart" is now LIVE!

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We're in some strange times and many people are struggling with not only is going on in their own lives, but in their wider community and the world as a whole. So, what can you do to hold yourself together when it feels as though everything is falling apart around you? In today's episode we talk about the little things that you can do to help meet your needs and cope, and how those little things can make a big difference.

In this episode we cover:

Episode References: