Dark humor. Not everyone has or uses it but for those of us that do, it can become a weight baring structor, especially when things are difficult. Join us this week as we discuss the use of dark humor in our lives, the negative impact it can have on ourselves and others, and whether or not it can be truly supportive to our needs.

In this episode we cover:

Episode References:

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

It can be so easy to fall into old patterns and to make choices that compromise our needs. This comes as no surprise as we've been conditioned our entire lives to do so. In today's episode we'll be talking about this conditioning and what we can do to best support our needs, especially in difficult times. In this episode we cover:

Episode References:Note:

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 125 - "Emotions Mini-Series: What to do if you're hesitant about connecting with your emotions" is now LIVE!

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In our last episode we talked about some of the tools we can use to connect with our emotions. This week we continue our emotions mini-series and discus what happens when we're hesitant to connect our emotions and how to approach them in ways that get us to the other side.

In this episode we cover:

- Claire's unwelcome visitor and her new expert skill

- What happens when we "tip toe" into an emotion

- The moral of the story and what Serena's bits have to do with it

- How to make going "all in" easier

- Focusing on the benefits to make the challenges easier

- Our experiences with being "in it"

- What facilitating extreme experiences taught Claire about needing to prove herself

- Breaking an arrow with your neck and its relation to processing emotion

- How to approach our emotions and how it makes the process easier

- What can happen when we don't process emotion

- Why we walk towards difficult emotions and how it allows us to better support others

- Why most people pull away from difficult emotions

Episode References:

- The episode that explains why we're excited about our notes - Episode 123 - How to support Neurospicy Needs

- The episode that talks about what's your outcome - Episode 120 - When things don’t go to plan mini-series - "Creating"

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 124 - "Emotions Mini-Series: How to begin connecting with your emotions" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

Many of us have been raised in a culture that has taught us to repress, suppress and all together avoid the emotions that are hard or uncomfortable (for ourselves or for others). Join us in the first episode of our emotions mini-series where we're talking about these emotions, their importance in the meeting our needs and ways we can start to better connect with them.

In this episode we cover:

- The societal conditioning that can repress and/or suppress the fulfillment of our need to show emotion

- The emotional dam

- Our experiences with emotions throughout life

- Wearing the "I'm Fine" mask

- How to begin connecting with your emotions

- Why we recommend to proceed with caution if processing on your own

- The tools we can use to tap into our emotions

- What is holding space

- What happened when Claire returned to Key West and stopped coping

- How you can begin accessing and externalizing your emotional experiences

- Embracing the multifaceted nature of emotions

- The key to fully processing emotion

- Why we need to normalize doing what works for each individual (in Selfirst ways)

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about the big 3 compromised needs - 122 - We are all human

- The episode where we talk about clearing niggles - Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing Niggles

- The coping episode - Episode 119 - When things don’t go to plan mini-series - "How to cope when things don’t go to plan"

- The episode where we talk about somatic processing - Episode 118 - I feel like I want to be angry but I don't know why

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 123 - "How to support Neurospicy Needs" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

Those who tune in regularly know we are no strangers to rabbit holes, tangents and runaway trains of thought. If you're new to our show, buckle up cause we're going on an adventure. Join us today as we talk about our own journeys as Neurospicy women, learning to navigate the meeting of our needs and finding the things that make it easier to operate in a typical society that isn't often accommodating to or accepting of that which lies outside of the "norm".

In this episode we cover:

- Why Claire is in happy butt land

- Some of the challenges that we have experienced being Neurospicy

- How our brains working differently from the "norm" has helped our business

- The niggle Claire cleared with Serena, how its affecting the podcast and how it could affect you the viewer

- The neurotypical box - If I fits I sits

- How self judgement prevents us from meeting our needs in effective ways

- What Claire has discovered about falling asleep

- You do you; embracing your uniqueness

- Supporting our needs in alignment with our Neurodivergence

- Life hacks and finding what works for you

Episode References:

- The episode where we talk about clearing niggles - Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing Niggles

- The image mini-series - Episode 121 - How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needs

- 122 - We are all human

- The coping episode - Episode 119 - When things don’t go to plan mini-series - "How to cope when things don’t go to plan"

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 122 - "We are all human" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

We are all human. It's a phrase that is easy to say yet hard to embody. So often we hold those in positions of influence, and subsequently ourselves, to subhuman expectations and standards. Tune in to find out how doing this compromise the needs of everyone and what can be done to help us to recognize the humanity that lives within us all.

In this episode we cover:

- Where in the country is Serena?

- Claire's good news

- Why Chappell Roan setting boundaries is getting pushback

- The celebrity standard

- Putting a human lens on what Britney Spears experienced in her 20s

- The reality of celebrity and its impact on needs

- The celebrity that Serena wrote off, in part, because of her own entitlement

- The expectations we put on ourselves and others

- What the celebrity standard has to do with you

- Why needs are musts

- What happens when we put someone on a pedestal

- The important reminders that help to remove pedestals

- What happens when we connect with our humanity and the humanity of others

- The shift Serena had regarding feeling less than in comparison with Claire

- Why the podcast isn't called "Well Shit. It really is that easy"

- The need that is usually pulling the strings

Episode References:

The episode where we talk about the Pintrest Mom - Episode 114 - How to deal with Imposter Syndrome

The Inner Critic episode - Episode 92 - How to deal with the inner critic and inner saboteur

The Apology Series - Episode 15 - Apology Series: When an apology actually damages needs, Episode 16 - Apology Series: How to apologize (and why sorry isn't enough), Episode 17 - Apology Series: What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come

The episode where we explain the Needs Ecosystem - Episode 36 - Self worth Series: Why it's so hard to feel 'enough'

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 121 - "How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needs" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

Often the image we seek to portray, and that we see of others, is one that is curated to elicit acceptance, notoriety, advancement and endless other things (ie. attempting to get needs met). If the image being presented isn't a true reflection of who we are, it is likely compromising our needs more than it's meeting them. Join us as we talk about our own journeys with image and the affect an image can have on not only our needs but our humanity as well.

Trigger warning: We discuss a phrase that we have since found to have a problematic history regarding racism. Please see the extended trigger warning notes below for additional information.

In this episode we cover:

- What is an image?

- Why do we try to portray an image?

- Who's needs are getting met when you portray an image

- The red green spectrum

- The significant downsides to portraying an image

- The conditioning Serena experienced as a child

- How Claire's image was molded

- What can happen when your different images collide

- What happens to connection and relationship when we create an image

- What Serena has discovered about weirdos

- Why sometimes the right word is "Fuck"

- Rules vs Principles

- The role perfection plays

- How an image compromises needs

- Why we believe something is perfect

- The difference between what is "right" and what is best

- How perfectionism affected Claire's image

- What needs are present when we create an image

- How do we shift this?

- The difference between fitting in and belonging

- Life's conveyer belt

- What happens when you get rid of the image

- How meeting her needs has taught Serena to "own it"

- The term we will no longer be using

- How an image can sacrifice our humanity

- When portraying an image is OK

Trigger Warning: We have found the term referenced in our podcast to be problematic as at one time it was utilized in reference to black people. Although the origin of the term, and some of it's subsequent associations are not harmful on their own, we believe it's usage could be harmful to others and will actively try to utilize other terminology. We go into this further in the short add on at the end of this episode.

Episode References:

The episode we talk about what happened when all of Claire's images had to be together in one room - Episode 23 - How to get over perfectionism

The episode where we talk about the Red-Green Spectrum - Episode 3 - I need to do WHAT?

The episode where we talk about being perfectly imperfect - Episode 23 - How to get over perfectionism

Our last episode - Episode 120 - When things don’t go to plan mini-series - "Creating"

The "C" word - Episode 19 - The C-word

In part two of our "When things don't go as planned" mini series, we move from coping to creating. In this episode we share the question that has made a huge difference in both of our lives, especially when it comes to coping. Tune in to find out how we utilize this question to help create the best possible outcomes given unexpected circumstances and how it helps us to do so quicker, more effectively and with less challenges.

In this episode we cover:

- The one question that can change everything

- Focusing on the issue vs. the outcome

- How this has changed the outcomes Serena has experienced

- Honey vs vinegar approaches and their effectiveness

- Why many situations escalate

- How "crumbling" can actually be a form of attack

- The relationship between reacting and control

- The best way to have "power" in a situation

- Short term vs. long term goals

- How consistency can create choice

- What's possible within where you're currently at

- Determining the most important outcome

- How to put yourself back in the driver seat

- Why and how people make situations harder for themselves to cope with

Our last episode where we talk about what needs are being impacted and what we need to do to meet those needs is Episode 119: When things don’t go to plan mini-series - "How to cope when things don’t go to plan"

Life has a way of life-ing and adulting isn't always easy. In the first part of our "When things don't go as planned" mini series, we will be talking about coping with life's curve balls and how to do so in a way that can actually benefit you in the process.

In this episode we cover:

- What has left Serena speechless

- Why we have stopped annual planning

- How we avoid setting ourselves up for frustration and disappointment

- How the sudden changing of plans can impact you beyond just inconvenience

- What we have discovered about coping

- Needs whack-a-mole

- How consistency helps us to cope

- The difference between repression/masking and coping

- Serena's coping process

- Examples of ways we cope

- How we make coping harder for ourselves

- The choice we have when coping

- Coping within the coping process

- The importance of finding time and space

- The minute that has changed the coping process for Serena

- What is a reaction?

Our last episode where we talk about releasing the pressure is Episode 118 - I feel like I want to be angry but I don't know why

The episode in which we talk about the star trek shields and the med packs is Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety

It's our first Needs Nugget episode and Serena's feeling a little "punchy". We stopped mid conversation to hit record and bring you in on our conversation. Tune in to find out what is happening when an emotion is present and you don't know why or you think you should feel a certain way and don't and what questions you can ask yourself to find out the answer.

In this episode we cover:

- What are Needs Nuggets episodes?

- How Serena's current situation is making her feel

- The actual meaning and origin of the term "Karen"

- How Serena's mental and emotional feelings differ from her physical

- The question that helps to figure out the why

- What happens when we get angry

- The importance of somatic processing

- Serena's Well Shit moment

- The relationship between anger and our Personal Power Need

- The quick hit

- How conditioning can drive us to emotions like anger

- The impact anger has on your Value Need

- Why old patterns and habits come up

- What questions you can ask yourself

- How being "punchy" can lead to subsequently punching yourself