Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 159 - "How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

***Trigger Warning - Ableist terminology and references to self harm

We've been talking about it since the beginning. It's been on the "to record" list for over a year. The wait is finally over...we're talking about shapes! Join us for today's episode where get into the shapes and dive deep into the Victim Approach. Although the show notes are slim, we promise you this episode is packed full of information that can change how you approach everyone in your life. You may be shocked how often this approach shows up in your everyday life.

In this episode we cover:

• What we're celebrating on today's episode
• An important consideration when meeting our needs
• The history of the Drama Triangle
• Overview of the Empowerment Ecosystem
• What is the Victim Approach
• The primary characteristic of someone who is in the Victim Approach
• Some of the ways the Victim Approach manifests in everyday life
• Examples of Victim Approach behaviors
• The difference between Serena "poltergeisting" and taking time for herself
• Looking for where we have adopted Victim Approach behaviors in our own lives

Episode References:

• The Apology Blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apology
• The red green spectrum episode - Episode 121 - How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needs
• The toxic positivity episode - Episode 39 - Just HOW toxic is Toxic Positivity?

Note:

• Irish goodbye is a term used to describe leaving a social gathering without saying goodbye to anyone. Although it is not often seen as an issue, it is seen as offensive and perpetuation of a stereotype. For that reason, we will try to utilize other terms to describe this action.

• As it is an ableist term, we have changed paralysis to freezing going forward

Resources:

• Click here to download the companion PDF to this episode (and the rest of the Interaction Dynamics series): https://theuniversalneeds.com/The-Interaction-Dynamics