Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 157 - "An "apology" to avoid consequences is not an apology, it's manipulation (and other things that help you to make an effective apology)" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

Imagine receiving (what feels like) a heartfelt apology and finding out it was actually an attempt to manipulate you. Unfortunately, this happens all too often. As we talked about in our last episode an effective apology can repair and strengthen a relationship and an ineffective one can further erode and sometimes destroy it. In this episode we'll get into how an apology can actually be a manipulation that is doing further harm to everyone involved, ways you may be manipulating or being manipulated and how to recognize these manipulation tactics. We'll also provide you with some additional tips and considerations for making an effective apology.

In this episode we cover:

• Our villain eras...cynical or silly?
• How manipulating someone impacts and compromises our needs
• The destructive seeds manipulation plants
• The importance of feeling our way through apologies
• How an ineffective apology can create anxiety
• When someone keeps bringing up something that happened a long time ago
• Claire's experience of having a personal development tool used to manipulate her
• Using the shame spiral as a form of manipulation
• Centering the person who has been harmed

Episode References:

• The Apology Blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apology
• The guilt and shame episode - Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shame
• The episode we talk about emotional processing - Episode 68 - That’s not rambling, it’s meeting your needs
• The clearing niggles episode - Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing Niggles
• Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety

Note: Murphy's Law was a principle (the actual phrasing is debated) coined by Edward A. Murphy Jr., an Air Force engineer working at Edwards Air Force Base in the late 1940s. The law's origins are linked to a specific incident where a technician wired a sensor backwards, rendering it useless.