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Episode 104 - You don’t need to be in crisis to ask for help or meet your needs

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A lot of us wait till we are neck-deep in a situation to ask for help or take care of ourselves. Today we are here to tell you that you don’t need to wait that long, or at all to ask for support. In this episode, we talk about why we tend to ask for help only when we’re in crisis, why it’s important to accept or ask for support before that and how meeting our needs before a crisis happens is a form of preventative wellness.

In this episode, we cover…

  • How you do not need to wait until you’re in crisis to ask for support and/or meet your needs
  • How many of us wait to be in some sort of crisis to ask for help/support, even from friends or family members
  • How when we ask for help when we are in crisis, the help and support we get is just to deal with the crisis and recover from it 
  • How the length of time it takes us to recover from a crisis and the impact it has on our needs is huge
  • How if we get the help and support you need before a crisis happens, we might be able to avoid the crisis altogether
  • How meeting our needs helps us to deal better with a crisis by having more resilience and more capacity and the ability to recover from these situations quicker
  • How feeling that we don’t need support/help/meeting our needs before a crisis comes up means that we think we are not important enough to prioritize our needs until it becomes critical. This is an indication that our value need is compromised
  • How waiting for a crisis to happen before asking for help makes it harder for the other person to support us 
  • How we do not need to be struggling at all to ask for help
  • How it’s ok to ask for support when we don’t need support because that’s what community is for
  • We invite you to create a community that you can lean into without having to be in crisis
  • How a lot of people think that we have to try to do whatever we can on our own and exhaust all the options before we ask for support
  • How asking for help when we are not in crisis might make the experience more enjoyable for everyone involved, and how leaving it until we are neck deep in the situation means that the situation is stressful for others too
  • This also holds true for meeting our needs. We do not need to be in crisis to meet our needs 
  • How meeting our needs only when we are in crisis means that we only meet our needs to recover from the crisis
  • The importance of meeting our needs in a Selfirst way to stay resourced
  • How meeting our needs is preventative wellness
  • How living in a society that tells us that we are not a priority prevents us from proactively meeting our needs
  • How being exhausted and burnt out is considered a badge of honor in today’s culture
  • How this is a subconscious way of meeting our needs
  • How we need to acknowledge people when they take care of their needs and the importance of creating an environment that does so

    • Episode references:The episode in which we share about the glass and plastic balls is Episode 20 - What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…

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