Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 105 - Don’t negatively impact the needs of the people you want around is now LIVE!

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Certain people try to manipulate others to get them to do what they want or cause a sense of obligation by attempting to create a power dynamic. This may have the opposite effect, as people might pull away from this behavior. In this episode we talk about how the Personal Power Need and Value Needs come into this scenario, why this behavior is never acceptable and how people can move further away or closer to us depending on how they affect our needs.

In this episode, we cover…

• How some people treat others in a certain way to try and meet their needs by creating a power dynamic 
• How this is related to our Personal Power Need
• How some people have a habit of guilting or shaming people to get them to do what they want them to do
• How this is not acceptable behavior
• How our Value Need is chronically unmet in our culture causing us not to feel worthy of people showing up for us unless they feel obligated to
• How the pressure from the obligation that is created makes people less inclined to show up
• “Never let an authority figure cause you to either submit or rebel” - Marshall Rosenberg - which means doing what’s right for us no matter what the authority figure is saying
• How some people expect others to meet their needs irrespective of whether it meets the other person’s needs or not
• How if we give in to a power dynamic, it will cause that person to use it again
• How we can communicate what we need and/or set a boundary if it is safe to do so
• The benefit of going into creator mode to try and find something that works for us both
• How we can choose to spend less time with someone if that person is not willing to understand what we are trying to communicate
• How it is ok not to want to spend time with someone who regularly negatively impacts your needs
• How people can move closer or further away in our orbits depending on how they impact our needs 
• An invitation to show up for and support people that you want as part of your life and not negatively impact them

Episode references:

Guilt and shame series: Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shame; Episode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguise; Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity

Episode 103 - Boundaries Series: How to communicate your boundaries 

The episode we refer to where we speak about the relationship orbits is Episode 17 - What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come

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