On this episode of the Meant 4 More podcast I talk about the need to de-stigmatize healing and that healing truly is for everyone. It doesn’t just happen on our own. We have to choose courage over comfort in order to embrace it.

On this episode I talk about:

• What healing is and isn’t
• My personal journey 
• Where to start
• How to keep going once you start
• It’s a journey not a destination

To get to lasting and significant change we have to heal. We have to go deeper than a lot of coaching does, but coaching can be an incredible complement to healing.

Most of what we do is unconscious; only 5-10% of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are made consciously. Without awareness we cannot reach a higher level of consciousness, and without consciousness we don’t have a chance of getting to the root of our trauma and healing.

My journey began with no longer being content with the status quo. I didn’t know what the root was, I just knew I was tired of going through the motions. I wanted more for myself and to live my most authentic life. I got still, tuned-in and started to develop some more awareness.

I asked myself a lot of questions and tried to get to the root of my thoughts, feelings and actions. I had to look at my childhood and how I showed up and the identity that was formed.

My biggest ah-ha: I didn’t have a voice. I kept myself safe in a protective shell. I had created my own defense mechanisms and limiting beliefs. 

The turning point: I found my voice. I got more and more comfortable expressing myself and being in opposition to other people; which was huge considering I was always so agreeable. 

I started to unravel many parts of my life, from career to marriage. I started looking at my experiences as a sort of death by a thousand cuts, what I like to call micro-traumas. Rack up enough little micro-traumas and they can no longer be ignored. 

Bottomline, my healing is a work in progress and it always will be. It’s a journey, not a destinations.

When you’re starting out it feels really scary. A good place to start is your physical health. Are you experiencing any unexplained health symptoms? But can’t seem to find a root cause? Have you examined your stress? 

Stress has a way of manifesting in our bodies, and if it goes unaddressed long enough, it’s going to wreak havoc. Once you start to address and manage the stress, you may be amazed at how your physical symptoms start to resolve. Don’t discount what’s going on in the physical body.

On the mental and emotional side, you are have to ask “Why?” more than you ever have. And it’s going to get uncomfortable; like REAL uncomfortable.  Out thought patterns run deep. And if we’re not willing to get curious, we can’t ever get to real healing and lasting change. And then you will find variations on a theme, so the work continues. I encourage you, stay in it. True freedom lies on the other side.

If you want to stay in it…

Document it. Remind yourself you can do hard things. You can show up any way you want, with awareness and higher levels of consciousness. 

Get support. It can feel very isolating and lonely. Seek out a support system that wants to encourage you to grow and develop. This is where the power of coaching really becomes valuable. Not to help you heal, because healing is an inside job, but to help you gain more insight and tools to guide you.

We don’t like to ask for help, but asking for help is an act of strength and vulnerability.

Keep looking. Keep being willing to dive in. There is so much power in doing the work and staying in the work. Healing is magical and a gift we can give ourselves if we choose.

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