I have no problem with you seeing the bright sides of things, or being optimistic or having a positive personality. I am a very positive person. However, when we don't let others sit with their pain, share their pain - and rush to put a fancy bow on their pain - we are 'SILVER-LINING IT". 

We do this for a variety of reasons.  When we insist on finding the silver lining to a deep sorrow in someone, we are actually robbing ourselves and of the opportunity to build connection and empathy -  instead, we build disconnection and distrust. 

“Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another and feeling with the heart of another.” – Alfred Adler. 

“You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself.” – John Steinbeck. 

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa.