The RTWV Podcast

Episode 11: “What If You’re the Problem in All Your Relationships?”


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This episode isn’t for the faint-hearted — it’s for the honest-hearted.


What if the common pattern in all your failed relationships… is you?

Not in a way that brings shame, but in a way that brings healing and growth.


In this episode of Relationship Talks with Vikkie, we unpack the courage it takes to look inward, how to identify harmful behaviors, and most importantly — how to break the cycle and become emotionally healthy for real love.


🎧 Timestamps:


⏱️ 00:00 – Introduction

A heart-to-heart moment. Why this topic matters more than we admit.


⏱️ 02:40 – Facing Yourself Without Shame

  • ​ God isn’t condemning you — He’s inviting you to grow
  • ​ Self-awareness is a gift, not a punishment

📖 Romans 8:1 — “There is therefore now no condemnation…”


⏱️ 06:20 – Signs You Might Be the Common Denominator

  • ​ Constant miscommunication?
  • ​ Fear of vulnerability?
  • ​ Quick to walk away or shut down emotionally?
  • ​ Attracted to brokenness?


⏱️ 11:50 – The Power of Accountability

  • ​ Who checks you when you’re out of line?
  • ​ Do you have safe people who help you see what you can’t?


📖 Proverbs 27:6 — “Wounds from a friend can be trusted…”


⏱️ 16:40 – Healing the Root, Not Just the Fruit

  • ​ Your triggers are telling a story
  • ​ Addressing childhood wounds, abandonment issues, and pride


⏱️ 22:15 – Practical Steps to Grow & Heal

  • ​ Get therapy, get discipled, get honest
  • ​ Journal patterns from your past relationships
  • ​ Invite God into your blind spots


📖 Psalm 139:23–24 — “Search me, God, and know my heart…”


⏱️ 27:00 – Final Encouragement

  • ​ You are not doomed to repeat the same story
  • ​ If you’re willing to confront the truth, you’re already on the road to change
  • ​ Don’t let pride block your breakthrough


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The RTWV PodcastBy Boluwatife Victoria Abiodun