Is this God? Or is this just me wanting it to be God?

That question lives in a lot of hearts about a lot of things — but nowhere more uncomfortably than when it’s about a person.

In this episode, Coach Vikkie opens Jeremiah 17:9, Philippians 4:7, and Galatians 5:22 to give you three clear signs that your feelings may be leading the discernment process rather than God — and what it actually looks like when it genuinely is Him speaking.

This might be the most honest episode of this series.

IN THIS EPISODE :

00:00 — Cold Open: The question most of us already know how to ask but not answer

00:45 — Introduction

02:30 — Jeremiah 17:9 — the heart is deceitful above all things

04:00 — How desire creates a convincing imitation of certainty

05:00 — Sign 1: Peace that is conditional on his behaviour

06:30 — Sign 2: You’ve stopped asking and started declaring

08:00 — Sign 3: You become defensive when people raise concerns

09:00 — What it actually looks like when it IS God

11:30 — Blessing’s story: hope dressed in spiritual language

13:30 — Closing prayer

14:30 — Outro

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How do you actually hear God about a person? Not in theory. Not in a sermon. In real life, when you like him, when you’re hoping, when your feelings are already loud.

In this episode, Coach Vikkie goes into the Word to give you a biblical framework for hearing from God in the context of a relationship — the three lanes scripture gives us, why emotional involvement changes what you hear, and a practical tool for creating enough stillness to hear what God is actually saying versus what you want to hear.

This is one of the most important discernment conversations we’ll have in this series.

IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 — Cold Open: The question nobody answers honestly

00:45 — Introduction

02:30 — Why hearing God about a person is genuinely difficult

05:00 — Filter 1: The Word — the first and non-negotiable test

06:30 — Filter 2: The witness of the Spirit — what it actually feels like

07:30 — Filter 3: Wise counsel — and why defensiveness is data

09:00 — The conditions required to hear clearly

10:00 — The 30-day still practice

11:30 — Esther’s story: peace that moved with her emotions

13:30 — Closing prayer

14:30 — Outro

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The quiet 11pm loneliness of holding the line — and how to know if your standard is wisdom or fear.

Watching everyone else move on can make you question your own standards.

This episode breaks down the real difference between wisdom and fear, shares a story about a standard that needed clarifying instead of lowering, and makes peace with the cost of holding the line.

0:00 — Cold open

0:45 — Intro

2:00 — The loneliness nobody names

4:30 — Wisdom vs. fear

8:30 — A real story: Adaeze

11:30 — The cost that's worth paying

13:30 — Closing prayer

14:30 — Outro

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A real message Coach Vikkie received this week, word for word — and the honest episode it became.

Tired of waiting doesn't mean your faith is failing. This episode sits in the exhaustion first, then walks through what to actually do with it: building a real life now, protecting your peace from comparison, and telling God the truth about how tired you really are.

0:00 — Cold open

0:45 — Intro

2:00 — Tired doesn't mean faithless

5:00 — What's actually underneath the tiredness

9:30 — A real story: Funmi

12:00 — What I won't promise you

13:30 — Closing prayer

14:30 — Outro

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“Wait on God” isn't the only honest answer to this question — and today Coach Vikkie gives you the rest of it.

If you've asked yourself why you're still single more times than you'd admit out loud, this episode goes past the Sunday school answer into the patterns, the grief, and the fear that often hide underneath the question. Real talk, no shame, with a story and a prayer to take with you.

0:00 — Cold open

0:45 — Intro

2:00 — The answer we've all been given

4:00 — The answers we don't talk about

8:30 — A real story: Bose

11:00 — What to actually do with this

13:30 — Closing prayer

14:30 — Outro

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Sex is often reduced to a physical act, but in Christian relationships, it carries emotional and spiritual weight.

In this episode, we have an honest and balanced conversation about sex, boundaries, and God’s design for intimacy.

We explore why sex is not just physical, why it is reserved for marriage, how it affects emotional attachment, and how to navigate desire with wisdom and self-control.

This is not a message of shame, but a message of clarity, growth, and alignment.

00:00 – Intro: Why this conversation matters

03:20 – Misunderstanding sex in Christian relationships

07:10 – Sex is not just physical

11:30 – God’s design for sex within marriage

15:40 – Emotional and spiritual attachment

19:20 – The danger of early intimacy

23:10 – Self-control and discipline

26:40 – The importance of boundaries

30:10 – Grace, growth, and moving forward

Why are so many genuinely good men and women still single?

In this episode, we explore the deeper reasons behind modern singleness. This conversation challenges the assumption that being single automatically means something is wrong.

We talk about intentional dating, emotional healing, compatibility, timing, and how modern dating culture affects meaningful relationships.

This episode will help you understand why singleness is not always a delay or failure, but sometimes a reflection of wisdom, growth, and discernment.

00:00 – Intro: The question many people ask quietly

03:20 – Why singleness is often misunderstood

07:40 – Being intentional versus rushing relationships

11:10 – Why alignment is harder than people think

15:00 – Healing before commitment

19:30 – How modern dating culture complicates relationships

23:40 – Standards versus unrealistic expectations

27:50 – The role of timing in relationships

31:10 – Closing thoughts

We live in a generation that rushes everything — including love.

People meet today, commit tomorrow, and start planning futures they barely understand. We rush titles, intimacy, emotional attachment, and decisions that are meant to shape our lives for years.

In this episode, Are We Rushing Relationships Too Much?, we slow things down and ask the hard but necessary questions. Not to judge, not to shame — but to bring clarity.

This conversation explores:

• ​ Why modern relationships feel rushed and pressured
• ​ How fear of loneliness pushes people into premature commitment
• ​ What gets skipped when love moves too fast
• ​ The difference between intention and urgency
• ​ Why healthy love does not panic or pressure

If you have ever felt like love was moving faster than your peace, this episode will help you pause, reflect, and choose wisely.

Love is one of the most desired experiences in life — yet one of the least understood.

Growing up, we were taught how to want love, how to dream about it, and how to chase it. But nobody taught us how love actually works, how it exposes wounds, how it demands maturity, or how it requires responsibility beyond feelings.

In this episode, What Nobody Told Us About Love, we have an honest, eye-opening conversation about the truths many people only learn after heartbreak.

This episode explores:

• Why love does not automatically heal you

• How love exposes unhealed wounds and patterns

• The difference between emotional attraction and healthy love

• Why love should bring peace, not confusion

• How to approach love differently in 2026

This is not a romantic fantasy episode.

It is a clarity episode.

A healing episode.

A wisdom episode for anyone entering a new year with questions about love.

If you want to love better, choose better, and stop repeating painful patterns, this conversation is for you.

They said the words.

They made the promises.

They made you believe in “forever.”

And then, they left.

Without warning. Without closure. Without explanation.

If you’ve ever been left questioning, “Was any of it even real?” this episode will help you process what happened without losing your peace.

Because sometimes, love doesn’t fail — people do.

In this raw, Spirit-led episode, we talk about:

💔 When love feels like a lie

💔 Why they left after saying “I love you”

💔 How to grieve what could’ve been without staying stuck

💔 What God wants to show you through this kind of heartbreak

00:00 – Welcome back to Love, Heartbreak & Healing

02:00 – “They said they loved me… then they left.” The heartbreak that confuses your faith

05:10 – When words and actions don’t match: the pain of emotional betrayal

09:00 – “Was any of it real?” Learning that love and maturity aren’t the same

13:45 – Why some people mean well but lack the depth to love well

17:20 – Healing when the person who said “I love you” disappeared

22:00 – Letting God redefine love after disappointment

26:00 – A prayer to release the one who left

29:00 – Outro + preview of Episode 5: “Healing Is Hard When You’re Still in Love.”

🎙️ You didn’t imagine the love, you just expected the person to sustain it.

Let God show you what real, lasting love looks like.