Adolescence can be brutal.  Finding our path out of the hellscape of the teenage years is no easy feat. Adolescence is so difficult because it’s a time of such profound change without full control over what is happening inside of us and around us nor is there clarity about how this will all turn out. It’s a liminal space – that bridge between who you were and who you’re becoming. What Oscar shares so poignantly with us in this episode is that sense of hopelessness that can travel with us in these confusing times of our life.

Oscar has such vivid recall of how his world seemed so darkand it appeared that others knew what they were doing and where they were taking their lives. His confusion about himself and his harsh comparison of himself against others remind us how hard it is to invest in anything when feel so unsure of who we are. It’s a time where we lack intention, and we think weare so incapable. We disengage from our lives and what travels with us is the dark hopelessness.

What I love about Oscar’s story is the antidote to thishopelessness that he gets to experience and to share with us. It is love that gets us through tough times. Even when we are kicking off and being disagreeable in so many ways and we feel so disenchanted with life there are often a few remarkable humans that just love us through this moment. Oscar recognises these key people who made his life better and different and so while at first this may sound like a story of hopelessness it’s actually a love story.

Growing up is messy and confusing. We can get lost and mayfeel very alone with own thoughts and our wounded hearts. What Oscar teaches us is that if we can let the people and the activities, we love become a part of our lives, we will stumble upon hope again. When we start to give value to others, we begin to realise how valuable we are to ourselves. We start to emerge with a stronger sense of identity, purpose, andresilience. We come of age seeing ourselves and the world with clearer eyes. We start making choices from that deeper understanding and it dawns on us that we area more conscious, capable, and complex version of ourselves. We’ve grown up a bit.