When we talk about birth, babies and the fourth trimester we can’t disregard our pleasures and desires. We don’t like to talk about it and we feel ashamed when it’s not working for us. That’s exactly why I invited this week’s guest Lacey Broussard. She’s a sex, love and relationship coach and she emphasizes how self worth and pleasure is tied to fear and guilt.

 

 

Does this topic make blush, then keep reading because you don’t want to miss this. Intimacy isn’t the first thing on your mind after having a baby and it doesn’t have to be. It takes time to heal and recover. There’s no set time for that, but at one point you will come back to that place of pleasure and it’s all tied in with you feelings of self worth.

Lacey explains why pleasure is a priority. Thousands of years ago they already understood pleasure as a source of energy. If you allow pleasure in your life your energy levels will start to rise. Allowing yourself to experience pleasure without expecting the outside world to provide it for you.

We’re so caught up in the “Stuff” based age that we don’t value essential care. As we’re moving into an “Experience” based age, the awareness is starting to grow but still not everybody has woken up. Lacey goes into why, for that reason, it is so important to have a tribe around you who values the same things as you. This relate to your birth, your postpartum but also beyond that. Unconditional support!

 

Self Worth and Pleasure

If you understand your self worth then there’s no question about pleasure because you know you deserve it. Self-care is something we talked about before here, but it continues to come as an essential part of embracing your true power.

Acknowledge the healing and by melting away the shame and fear of being intimate when you know your body. Yes, you’ve changed but that doesn’t mean you can’t rediscover your changed body! The stigma and shame women are put through is shocking, but you also hold the power to break through the cycle by claiming your own sexuality.

I’ve mentioned it before, other guests have mentioned it and Lacey also stresses how crucial it is to share your birth experience because by doing so, much healing is already taking place. Knowing what your story was like, whether you had the birth you wanted or it didn’t go as planned, sharing it helps you to heal. Owning your story will help you to stay connected to your body.

The relationship you have with your body and with yourself is the most important relationship. Nourish that relationship, care for yourself. Know that you are worth it!

Are you interested in connecting with Lacey Broussard and learn about her coaching program click here!