6 Signs they’re toxic for you

 

Toxic people often make you want to fix them and their problems

Make you feel sorry for them and make you feel responsible for their issues, even though their issues are never solved

Black hole of “needing help”

They require your ongoing sympathy and support and will create drama after drama to make sure you stay focused on them

But they’re problems are never solved, are they?

 

Toxic people are draining

Leave you emotionally drained

Its always about taking care of their business

This can lead to frustration and anger because in the end, they don’t really care about their own business and yet youre constantly involved in fixing it

Protect your time and energy

They’re manipulative

Get people to do what they want for them

Use other people to accomplish their goals

 

They’re Judgmental

Constantly Criticizing

 

They take no responsibility for their own feelings

They rather project their feelings onto you

 

They don’t apologize

They don’t see any reason too

Always someone else fault

Constantly playing victim

 

They make you prove yourself to them

Make you choose them or someone else

Choose Something they want over what you want

 

They’re not interested in what matters to you

When good things happen to you, it moves the attention away from them and they can’t deal with that

Make you feel guilty

Criticize how you’re doing it

Try to take away from your accomplishments

 

 

 

13 signs you’re in a toxic relationship

 

Passive aggression

Nothing is direct

Theres always criticizing

If you cant be direct in your relationship then you have nothing

 

Jealousy and the blame game

Were all human, some jealousy is expected

But excessive jealousy is never okay

 

Criticism and contempt

Constant nitpicking

 

Arguing without communicating

Yelling over each other

if theres no exchange of communication and neither person is able to say how they really feel, nothing will be solved

 

Negative Energy

Feeling uncomfortable or tense around someone is your body reacting to negative energy around you

Negativity can drain you

Mentally

Physically

Emotionally

Your Sig Other should be a release from that kind of stress

Just aren’t happy when around each other

Happier at work than at home?

 

Avoiding each other

If you cant stand the thought of being around them, its all bad

 

You’re not yourself

Change is going to happen

But you two should be changing in the same direction

Relationships should create a better you, not a worse version

 

Feeling like theres no point

Comfortable over choice

If you’re relationship is going nowhere and only one person is willing to change, why waste the time?

Only think about making him or her happy

2 way street

Both of you should be constantly thinking about different ways to make each other happy

 

Cant seem to do anything right

Everything you do upsets or annoys

walking on egg shells

 

Growth and change are seen as negatives

Relationships have to evolve in order to last

“Why can’t things just stay like this” is a long-term relationship killer

At some point someone will want more and the other will start feeling left out and make it an issue either directly or passively

 

Reminiscing on the beginning instead of looking toward the future

Constantly thinking about when you first met and how it was, and holding onto that even tho the current situation is nothing like that

Fantasizing about what used to be is not healthy or realistic

 

You’re just not happy anymore

You don’t have to justify your happiness

You should feel supported and capable of doing anything

When things fall apart, this person should give you stability

 

 

 

10 things to stop being a toxic person

 

Stop assuming you’re better or worse than anyone else

Stop being an egomaniac

Stop thinking your either way better or worse than your partner

You experience these both at times and act out in jealousy

Try to work towards being healthy

Your partner in human just like you with strengths and weaknesses, no one is better or worse

 

Take some time for yourself

One form of toxicity Is codependency

You require a partner to be ok, so put immense expectations on your person

Results in disappointment and fighting

Time to isolate and get familiar with yourself

This could even mean breaking up or taking a break

 

Seek therapy or some sort of structured support

If you’re toxic, you probably have trauma or emotional baggage that needs to be sorted through

Childhood example of relationships

First step is awareness and next is structured action

 

Practice meditation or breathing exercises to cool your emotions

If anger feels uncontrollable

Sadness is devastating

Great way of grounding yourself

Woo saw

 

Be honest with yourself

Hard part is done, youre aware your the toxic one

This takes tons of self awareness and guts to come to terms with

You need to keep peeling back those layers as to why you act and react the way you do

 

Lean into the messiness

Realizing your toxic is the beginning

Theres months and years of messiness ahead

You’re going to have to put in work to function normally

There will be mistakes or hiccups along the way

Old habits will resurface and make a mess of things

Its all good, as long as you’re trying

 

Take responsibility for your actions

For the first time in a while, its time to own your own mistakes instead of blaming them on someone else

Sorrys won’t cut it anymore, actions have to follow

 

Do the right thing, not the easy thing

Next time your partner is talking about the opposite sex, instead of being passive aggressive try being neutral

You don’t have to like being Neutral but you need to work on it anyway

 

Bite your tongue

Your mouth is what gets you in trouble

Stop lashing out

Stop nitpicking and calling it (Being honest)

practice biting your sharp tongue

sometimes saying nothing at all is your best option

 

Know you are not broken or unlovable, “YOU” just need to heal yourself

Realizing youre toxic can be devastating

You start layering up the self hatred

This is not useful to you or anyone else

Youre just another human doing the best you can

You’re not damaged you just require some space to repair yourself