Do you make these 10 common mistakes in a conversation?

 

Conversation is key! It is the way we form all of our relationships, whether it’s through text, on the phone, or belly to belly.

 

Top 10 Mistakes

 

Not Listening

Most people do not actively listen.

They just wait for their turn to talk

When you do this, you cannot possibly contribute to the conversation in the best ways

Stop being lazy and learn to actually listenYou will pick up on more potential paths in the conversation

 

If someone says:

‘I went to the mall last weekend with a couple friends.’

 

You could say:

‘What mall did you go to?’

‘So you love shopping?’

‘What all did you guys do at the mall?’

‘Did you see any great deals?’

‘What were you guys shopping for?’

etc.

 

The person will delve deeper into the subject, giving you more info to work with and more paths to choose from.

 

If they say something like ‘Oh I don’t know’ at first, don’t give up

Prod a little further

Ask again

They do know, they just have to think a little more

As they start to open up the conversation becomes more interesting because it isn’t on autopilot anymore.

 

 

Asking too many questions

If you ask too many questions, the conversation can feel like an interrogation.

Or like you don’t have much to contribute

Mix questions with statements

 

Continuing the conversation above, you could skip the question and say:

‘Yeah it’s so great to get away with your friends for the weekend. We just went shopping for an event at the end of the month.’

‘Nice. We always go to Greenwood Mall when we can, you should check it out!’

 

Conversation can then flow from there

You can talk about the different malls you go to, your event at the end of the month, etc.

 

 

Tightening Up

When in a new conversation or when the usual topics are exhausted

An awkward silence or mood might appear.

You may become nervous or worried not knowing exactly why

 

You can always talk about current eventsNews

Water cooler topics: shows and cultural news (latest episode of ____)

Choose something from your surroundings.Aquarium

That girls cool Halloween costume

The music playlist

Great way to start new conversations

Assume RapportIf you feel nervous or weird about meeting someone for the first time

Imagine how you would feel when you meet one of your best friends

Pretend that your new acquaintance is one of your bf’s.

Don’t overdo it with touchiness right away

But if you do this, you will greet new people in a positive emotional state.

You will begin talking with a smile and a relaxed attitude

It may sound loopy but it really works.

 

 

Poor Delivery

One of most important parts of a conversation

Not what you say, but how you say it.

A change in these habits can make a big difference

Since voice and body language are vital parts of communication

 

Things to think about:

Slowing downWhen you get excited it’s easier to talk faster and faster.

Try to slow down

It makes it easier for people to listen and to actually get your point across

Speaking upDon’t be afraid to talk as loud as you need to for people to hear you.

Speak clearly. Don’t mumble

Speak with emotionNo one listens if you speak with a monotone voice.

Let your feelings be reflected in your voice.

Use pausesSmall pauses between thoughts or sentences creates a bit of tension and anticipation.

People will start listening more attentively

Improve your body languageMakes delivery much more effective

 

 

Hogging the Spotlight

Everyone involved in a conversation should get their time in the spotlight

Don’t interrupt someone to divert attention back to yourself

Don’t hijack their story about skiing before it’s finished to share your best skiing story.

Find a balance between listening and talking

 

 

Having to be right

Avoid arguing and having to be right about everything

A lot of times, conversations aren’t really a discussion.

Its more of a way to keep the good mood going

No one will be impressed if you ‘win’ every conversation

Sit back, relax and just keep the good feelings going

 

 

Talking about weird or negative topics

If you are just getting to know someone, it’s best to avoid certain topicsTalking about your bad health or relationships

your crappy job or boss

serial killers

technical lingo that only you and some other guy understands

or anything that sucks the positive energy out of the conversation

You may also want to save religion and politics for conversations with your friends.

 

 

Being boring

Don’t prattle on about your new car for 10 minutes oblivious to your surroundings

Always be prepared to drop a subject when you start to bore people.

Or when everyone is getting bored and the topic tis running out of steam

 

One good way to have something interesting to say is simply to lead an interesting life.

Focus on the positive stuff

Don’t whine about your circumstances. People don’t want to hear it.

Talk about your last trip somewhere, some funny story that happened last week, your plans for the upcoming holiday, your new business or blog, or something funny and exciting.

 

Another way is to just be genuinely interesting

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way to say that they way to make friends is to be one.” Dale Carnegie

 

Knowing a little about many things or at least being open to talk about them instead of trying to steer the conversation back to your favorite subject is a nice quality

Open up a bitDon’t cling desperately to one topic

If you can avoid this

You will come across as a person who can talk about many things with ease.

This quality is something that is appreciated in conversation

It makes you feel like you can connect to that person easily

 

 

Not Reciprocating

Open up and say what you think, share how you feel.

If someone shares an experience, open up too and share one with them

Don’t just stand there nodding and answering with short sentences.

If someone invests emotionally into a conversation, they want you to as well.

 

You can’t always wait for the other party to make the first move.

Be proactive and be the first one to open up and invest in the conversation

One way is to replace questions with statements.

It makes you less passive.

 

 

 

Not Contributing Much

You may feel that you don’t have much to contribute, but try anyways

Be interested in what others say

Ask questions

Make relating statements

 

Open your eyes.

Develop your observational skillsPick up on interesting things in your surroundings

iDevelop your personal knowledge bankBy expanding your view of interesting things in the world.

Read newspapers and keep an eye on new water cooler topics

Work on your body language, assume rapport

 

 

Wrapping up

 

Don’t do it all at once

Pick out the 3 most important things that you feel needs improving.

Work on them everyday for 3-4 weeks.

Notice the difference and keep at it

Soon you will form new habits for your conversations

Building a personal brand and how we made a living off of it

 

What is a personal brand?

Process of managing and optimizing the way you are presented to others.

How you act on social media and in real life

How hard you work

Your reputation

Everything from the clothes that you wear to the level of professionalism you have when talking to others

This will help build trust and consistency

 

 

 

 

Whats cool about a personal brand

You get to be yourselfWhile building credibility

You will gain higher perceived value.

Can get back into all the things you were into before bills

You attract other people with similar interests and hobbies

Can turn into a communityAssociation with a market niche

If paired with the right business model its amazing

You can make 6-7 figures a year by learning how to market yourselfIt will help you have a steady stream of customers and business partners

People will seek you out instead of you seeking them out

Each new interest could potentially become another source of income

Leadership opportunities: you are establishing yourself as an authority

 

 

 

 

What do I aim for my brand to say:

I’m.. (Tim)

Young

Ambitious

Funny

Proud of ADD

Husband

Father

Family oriented

Goal oriented

Mentor

Life Coach

Actually making shit happen

Helping ppl make money and expand their horizons

Future 7 figure earner

Future World traveler

 

I’m.. (Lacy)

Young

Ambitious

Logical

Wife

Mother

Family & Goal Oriented

Leader

Spiritual

CBD resourceMarket Niche: pregnancy and breastfeeding

 

NOTE: Specificity is huge: With a specific niche focus you will have relevancy and more opportunities to prove that you know what you are talking about.

 

 

 

 

How to get started

 

- Write down 5-10 interests (Putting out my feelers for ppl)

 

Questions to ask yourself:

What is the one thing that everyone says you rock at?

What are your passions and interests?

What do you read about most often?

Will you still be interested in this particular area six months or a year from now?

 

 

(Both professional and personal, you need variety)

self development Builds strengths

Personal awarenessIdentifies weaknesses

PsychologyWhy people do the things they do

Ways to make and multiply moneyNetwork Marketing

ForexThese all have potential communities

With people who also want to just be themselves but they don’t know how to and are looking for a mentor

Family

Being a good and involved husband and father

Real estate

Luxury Vehicles

Fashion

Foodie/Restaurants

Overall VisionCreate a pool of investors

Create new businesses out of different passions

Create schools that give free education

Aquire assets for my peers

live like dan bilzerian but with a full family

 

Who do I want to be my audience or who is my audience

- Gender

- What kind of design catches their eye

- Income Bracket

- Different resources, different budgets

- How do they receive information

- What platforms do they use mostly

- What times are they on

- What kind of content do they like

 

- What do they find interesting

- What problems do they have

-

 

Design

- Please please please don’t overlook this

- Crappy design can cripple your brand and ppl won’t pay attention

- This is what grabs your attention

- Good design can make you stand out in a world of shitty design

- Find inspiration from current brands and websites

- Pinterest

- Behance

- Youtube

- Canva

- Over

 

Examples:

- Simplistic and modern brands (Apple, Luxury Brands)

- Chris do

- Joe Knows Best

- Marques Brownee

- Tech review you tubers

- Luxury Car review channels

 

 

Tools to use nowCanva

Over app

 

Learn the tools the Pros use (Over a period of time)Illustrator

Photoshop

Lightroom

After Effects

Adobe Premier

These skills alone will make you stand out and make you money

 

Brainstorm Content Ideas:

What can you teach people? (Tutorials)

What are you into that thousands of other people could get into

Take an overall topic and break it down into sections

Make a post/video/live about each section

Interact with your audience (Big or small)

Show them your journey from the beginning

That makes ppl connect with you

Voice your new goals or what youre pursuing currently or in the future

Make sure you actually do that shit or its pointless, it’ll be all talk and no one will care

 

NOW that you have established your personal brand interests, you can begin posting about them in between promotional posts OR integrating them together.

 

2 brand posts per promo posts

 

Picking and organizing a platform

Pick strongest platform (Most active)Start building there

Build an audience then start carrying them over to new platforms

Current PlatformsFacebook

Podbean/Itunes

Youtube

No need to start 9 new accounts that you have no following onYour time is better spent making content then learning how to use these platforms and growing an audience

Take your top platform and start learning how it works (algorithms)

 

Time:

This is going to take time and consistency before anyone starts giving a shit

If you do this for 2-3 months then fall off, youre never going to see the results that are possiblemake this a 5 year goal, I mean its fun because youre just being yourself and learning how to do cool shit around that

People normally start doing this and want to see the money, connections and leverage immediately, this is a game of patience and tinkering with what people gravitate to, if you try to rush the process to get to the money, ppl will see that and they won’t care

For those who are like whats the point? (After 2-3 years we currently m are $500 a fb post compared to what we make monthly) Think on that next time you think on giving up another thing that didnt happen overnight

FACEBOOK LIVE

HOW TO USE

Go to the News Feed, and tap the "Live" option denoted by the camcorder icon.

Give Facebook access to your camera and microphone when prompted.

Choose your privacy setting.

Write a compelling description.

Tag friends, choose your location, or add an activity.

Set up your camera view.

Add lenses, filters, or writing and drawing to your video.

 

 

Nervous?

Try going LIVE using the ‘Only Me’ option

 

 

Don’t worry about mistakes or things that you dislike about yourself!

Mistakes are what make LIVES so real

No one even notices except you!!!

Ex: I hate my teeth. They have been destroyed by my pregnancy condition

No one even notices except me.

People want to see the real you

Body language is the largest form of communication, so this is the best way to let your audience get to know you!

 

Common things to expect

You will forget what you are talking aboutWe will talk about outlines!

You will feel awkward waiting for people to hop on

The longer you are live, the more views you will have

More interaction. LIVES receive up to 6x more interaction than regular videos.

 

Benefits

Your audience sees who you are

You are rewarded in the algorithm

It’s the best way to build your business on facebook

You will get better results than text posts

 

 

Tips & Tricks

 

Basics

Set a great title and description. ALWAYS

You can add a link to the description later to a group that you have asked them to join

 

Go live from your personal page. Not a business page. You can always share to your business page later.

 

Go live anytime you are doing an event for your business or brand

 

Focus on good lighting. Get a light or face a window!Natural light always looks amazing!

 

Be vulnerable. Show emotion. Use your hands if possible. Smile

Bring great energy!

 

Ask for interaction. Drop emojis for agreements.

 

Continue to use your GREAT videos for a long time by bumping them

 

 

Set a goal

What do you want to achieve with your live?

Stay live for at least 10 minutes

 

 

Have an outline or direction

The way you organize your speaking points should point your viewers toward your goal.

My outlines help me when

 

 

Interact with your viewers

Respond to some comments and questions

Call viewers by name

It makes your viewers feel appreciated, and they will be more likely to stick around and watch

Greet people as they join.

Set breaks for questions, or save for the endAnswering questions during might make your live feel disorganized

Say goodbye and give thanks when you wrap up

 

Promote your video

Post about it in advance

Post about it right before you go on

Create a set of countdown posts

You can even go live to let people know about your live!Love when our team does this for our weekly opportunity live!

 

 

Recap as you go

People can join anytime during the broadcast

They might not be able to follow what you are saying

Periodically recap as you go, to help save these viewers from confusion

‘If you are just now joining us, we have been talking about (recap).

This will keep viewers who do not know what you are talking about

 

Do people ask you to be notified of when you go live?

Press the ‘Live Subscribe’ button on your video to receive notifications when you are live

They can go to your facebook profile

Click the notifications button under your cover photo

Press the edit options pencil button

Turn on notifications under ‘Live Videos’ for ‘All Live Posts’

 

Add an ‘Ask’ or Call to action

This is the best chance of generating an immediate return

You can add an ‘ask’ at the end, or sporadically through the video.

 

You can also ask for likes, shares, comments

"Thumbs up if you like LWTG.”

"Thank you guys for all these Likes. My screen is absurdly blue right now because I'm getting tons of thumbs up."

“Share this with your best girlfriend who you think is strong and powerful."

6 Most important mindsets that will make you magnetic

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.” Gandhi

 

 

These mindsets will help you become a more charismatic person.

 

No matter what, I will be okay

The most fundamental mindset to Charisma

So many people live their life wrapped in a mental loop of ‘what if questions’

What if I speak up and my boss doesn’t like my idea?

What if I ask her on a date and she says no?

All of these what if questions stop people from expressing who they truly are!!!

We must defeat these ‘what if’ questions, and realize that everything will always be okay.

The repercussions for worst case scenarios are not so bad!

If your boss doesn’t like the idea, move on.Bravery to put your idea into the world

Your idea could change the world

This skill comes from knowing: No matter what I will be okay.

Enables you to act with freedom that most people never experience.Everyone else is too stuck in the loop of fear and rejection

You can and should take risks in expressing yourselfIdeas

how you feel

asking people

cracking jokes

speaking your mind

Others will see that you are immune to social pressure and that you express who you are.

They will gravitate toward you, because that is a strength that most people want to have themselves.

If you ever find yourself stuck, not knowing if you should speak up, come back to this belief because it is so critical.

 

 

I care more about my character than my reputation

 

Character is more important than how people perceive you

You realize that the way that you are matters more than the way that people think that you are

So many people spend their lives managing the opinions of other people

‘Will they think this, if I do that’ ‘Even if I say the truth they still won’t believe me’

If you focus on doing the right thing:worrying about your own character,

and then letting people form opinions about you,

what happens is that people see that you are not overly invested in controlling how they feel

‘Wait a sec. if they don’t care about how I feel, I can trust them to be genuine and honest

It’s paradoxical

SO, if you focus on your character and stop investing so much effort into controlling peoples opinions, what tends to happen is that you feel freedom to be who you are

People will also have better opinions of you once you act this way

 

BTW we are always here for you guys for honest opinions

 

You have impeccable honesty and integrity

 

This is the one that is least emphasized and needs to be talked about much more

Every time you tell a lie, even a small lie,‘I’m on my way’ but you are still showering

You are building a reputation with yourself

Your reputation with yourself is that you sometimes say things that aren’t true

Even if no one else finds out, you still know this

This devastates your ability to speak with conviction, which is critical to charisma

The ability to look someone in the eye and say that you believe 100% what is coming out of your mouth. You fully stand behind what you say

When you lie sometimes, you hurt your ability to speak with conviction all the time.

It may come through in little gestures, a flinch, eye contact, a waver of voice, etc. The lie will break through

Cut that shit out today.

There will be a penalty to pay

If you have started building a life that is created of small lies built over time, walking back and exposing the truth can hurt.

There are rare situations that you do not need to expose a truth

Someone dying doesn’t need to know that you don’t believe in god.

If you don’t tell the truth you are crushing your self esteem and ability to form genuine relationships in your life

 

You do not need to convince anyone of anything.

 

Not caring vs. persuasion

The idea behind how to be more persuasive: make your asks more persuasive. Increase the odds that someone wants to do the things that you want them to do.

BUT, the idea is not that you repeat that same cycle over and over, badgering them

You never need anyone to do anything, you are simply asking them

Where people run into trouble is when they have relationships in their life where they feel they absolutely need to get someone to work a certain way

Then you enter into neediness aka. Trying to convince

You have gone back and forth over the same issue many times

Your charisma is destroyed because you need something from that person

The charismatic person simply asks, and if the answer is yes: great.

can I deal with this in a way that is acceptable to me

or do I need to weed this person or situation out.

If the answer is no, ask yourself:

This can be very hard.

If someone is not treating you the way you like to be treated, do not engage in this cycle of trying to force them to be different

Accept that the relationship will remain the way it is, or filter them out of your life

Once you start filtering these peripheral relationships, the people who do not push you, people who look at new opportunities with a discouraging eye

When you filter them out, you make room for the type of people who are going to lift you up.

 

Start communicating your purpose more proactively

 

A lot of people spend a lot of their lives engaged in small talk

Wind up with the same answer.Job title, vacation, blah blah

Charasmatic people have a purpose that they are fired up by

They won’t shove it down your throat, but when it comes up in conversation they will tell you what their purpose is

Start telling people your purpose, and before you know it people will help you achieve it.

This incredible thing happens, but only because they repeatedly put it out there

Other humans hear, they are inspired by the message, they are inspired by the desire, then they help

Make sure to put your purpose into the world

 

 

You need to start going first

 

Be the first person to extend praise in a group of people who aren’t comfortable doing that

First person in a group of strangers who cracks a joke

First person to say something vulnerable

You are leading the group in ways that they can connect more. This signifies leadership and bravery to other people.

You are doing what others are nervous to do.

When you do that you will naturally become the type of person that others want to be around

Whole group dynamics can shift. Everyone will get vulnerable, everyone will tell a joke. All of a sudden you are connecting in ways that were not previously possible

Be the person who takes the social risk

No matter what happens, it will be okay

 

 

As you start to incorporate these mindsets into your life, they will start to make a tremendous difference. Build the mindsets with surface level ideas such as body language and eye contact.

Confidence

 

“To establish true self-confidence, we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” — Denis Waitley

 

Nobody is born with high or low self-confidence. Confidence is a feeling that people develop and work on over time. For most people, confidence is something that comes and goes.

 

ME:

Very confident in High school

Lost a lot of confidence in college

Had to gain it back

CONFIDENCE COMES AND GOES. You must constantly work on your confidence.

 

Think in terms of a cycle

Top of cycleFocused on successes, accomplishments

Feel confident and strong

BottomFocused on failures

May feel low self-confidence and defeat

Realize that confidence is like a muscle: the more you work on it, the easier it will become for you to use and maintain

 

We see this cycle constantly in NM. The ups and downs. Highs and Lows

NM: getting people to drink your koolaid

No one wants to drink your koolaid = confidence hit

This is why we are constantly focused on self development

It’s a tough industry. You must be strong and work on your confidence.

 

What is Self Confidence?

Feeling when strutting into an interview, knowing that you will impress

A person feels confident when they believe they can successfully do something byApplying their judgement, knowledge and prior life experiences

 

How does SC impact your life?

Boosts our self-esteem

Diminishes stress

Pushes us to act

Makes us feel good about ourselves

 

People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.

People are reluctant to back a person who isnervous,

fumbling and

overly apologetic

People are persuaded by people whospeak clearly,

hold their head high,

answer questions assuredly,

and readily admit when they do not know something.

 

Confident Behavior vs. Low Confidence behavior

 

Confident Behavior

Doing what you believe to be right, even if criticized or mocked

Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things

Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them

Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments

Accepting compliments graciously.

 

Low-Confidence behavior

Governing behavior based on what other people think

Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and avoiding taking risks

Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices

Talking about your accomplishments to as many people as possible

Dismissing compliments offhandedly.

 

The examples show that low confidence can be self destructive, and it often manifests as negativity.

 

 

What contributes toward SC?

 

self-efficacy and self-esteem

 

Self Efficacy: a belief that you have the innate ability to achieve your goals, overcome challenges and succeed.

 

We gain a sense of self-efficacy when:

we see ourselves mastering skills

And achieving goals that matter in those skill areas.

This is the confidence that, if we learn to work hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed.

This type of confidence leads people to accept difficult challenges

Persist in the face of setbacks

 

This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem.

Self-Esteem: Person’s evaluation on their self worth and value

Confidence and SE have a direct correlation

When you believe in yourself, your talents, capabilities, worth and potential - both your SE and SC increases.

When your SE increasesYou believe you are worthy of the life you dream of and the success you desire.

You will become more confident

Easily accept your failures

Give yourself the credit you deserve

Accept new challenges

Become happier

This has a relationship with happinessPeople who feel good about themselves are significantly happier than those who lack self worth.

When SC increases, SE and happiness do the same.

 

 

Building Self Confidence

 

There is no quick fix

The things that you do to build confidence will help build your success

Have focus and determination.

 

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.” — Arthur Ashe

 

 

Step 1: Preparing your journey

 

 

Look at what you have already achievedList the ten best things you’ve achieved.

Spend a few minutes each week looking at these achievements to see success that you have already had

 

 

Think about your strengthsTake a look at who you are

Personality tests

What would your friends consider to be your strengths and weaknesses

 

 

Think about what is important to you and where you want to goSetting and achieving goals is the key to this

Real confidence comes from achieving goals

Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimize weaknesses, realize your opportunities, and control the threats you face

 

 

Start managing your mindDefeat negative self-talk: can destroy your confidence

Create strong mental images of what you’ll feel and experience as you achieve your major goals

 

 

Commit yourself to successPromise yourself that you are committed to your journey and that you will do everything in your power to achieve it

If doubts start to surfaceWrite them down and challenge them calmly and rationally

Manage these doubts appropriately

 

Use appearance to your advantage2 equally qualified candidates at a job interview

App 1: doesn’t shake hand, slouches, no eye contact, looks messy

App 2: Firm handshake, sits up straight, looks you in the eye, wears nice suitWho would you choose?

It’s proven: people who feel good about the way they look feel greater SC and SE

Use your appearance and body language to make yourself feel more confident in any situation.

 

 

Step 2: Setting Out

 

 

Start to move toward your goal ever so slowly

Do the right things and celebrate the small wins

 

Build the knowledge that you need to succeedLook at your goals and identify skills needed to achieve them

Look at how you can aqcuire these skills confidently and well (don’t accept half-ass)

Look for a program or course that full equips you to achieve wha you want to achieve

 

 

Accelerate towards successOnce you have completed some learning, you will have plenty of success to celebrate

Start stretching yourself.

Make your goals bigger, and the challenges tougher.

Increase the size of your commitment

 

 

 

Self-confidence is not always easy to achieve or maintain

but it’s something that everyone deserves to experience.

There are many reasons why confidence is essential in our personal and professional lives,

but most importantly, it plays an integral role in our happiness.

What they don’t tell you about entrepreneurship

 

When people look at a successful entrepreneur

- they see the cars, money, houses, success etc etc

- but what they don’t see is all the shit they went through to get there

- Living broke as hell starting out

- Spending everything you have on getting started

- Cutting out friends and family who are negative

- Skipping on family vacations and trips

- Truly sacrificing for right now in hopes that it all pays off with no 

guarantee

- People look and think its all gravy and easy but have no clue what they go through to make it happen consistently

 

Theres a metaphor that I found pretty interesting from Dan Lok

“That man (or woman) is riding on a lion he is so brave, meanwhile the man is wondering How the hell did I even get on this lion and how do I prevent myself from being eaten alive”

 

Ppl see entrepreneurs

- Hustling

- bring customers in

- building social media

- making things happen

- trying to manage everything before having a mental breakdown or going broke

 

All of this can lead to feelings of

- anxiety

- self doubt

- worthlessness

- suicidal

 

People always see the glory but don’t see what goes on behind then scenes, but fortunately theres a large community of fellow entrepreneurs that support each other through these crazy times

 

Entrepreneursip is the ability to endure pain for a long period of time

 

No matter how much money you make the problems will always be there, they’ll just have a few more zeros attached to it

 

One problem solved will be immediately replaced by another problem, which is the name of the game, entrepreneurs are simply problem solvers

- marketplace

- business

 

Talk about personal events:

- starting Indiana creatives

- starting hempworx

- working for aether

- trying wholesaling

 

Don’t focus on the glorys of this life, the material things of what you want, it’ll stress you out

 

Instead focus on how to get pass this phase that your in and how to overcome everything that youre faced with (personal and business)

 

They may seem like disadvantages now but they’ll be your advantages over everyone else but you leveled up and figured it out

 

Families and friends are some of the worst people in entrepreneurship

 

Families can be mentally draining because thats who youre doing this for

- they want you to go get a secure job and settle

- saying youre wasting your time

- you should give up

- you don’t spend time with us anymore

- they don’t understand what

 

Everyone loves to complain during the hard times of building a business but everyone loves to be there when it pays off, they want to ride in the new cars, dinner at the new house, get on that Christmas list, ask for jobs or some money, its sad

 

Then once you get to a certain level they start saying stuff like..

- you work to much

- money isn’t everything

- why not just enjoy life, you make more than enough

 

Because theres millions of other people who deserve this lifestyle as well, and its our calling to help these people and give back so they can experience what we have along with their families

 

In the beginning you may just start to make a living but after you get to that level it comes much deeper than financials, you feel like its your duty to help society as a whole, thats how you really leave a mark on the world

 

The rewards from come in forms of messages, and the way people talk about you, impacting peoples lives

 

Lunch with the Garzas is our way of giving back to the people, we don’t make any money directly off of this platform, we do it out of love, we do it for the amazing messages we receive from people

 

Favorite quote:

Live like most people won’t so you can live life like most people can’t

 

Work when most people don’t want to so you don’t have to work when most people have too

Money Blocks

Money blocks have roots deep in our subconscious that go undetected for many years until you realize that you’ve hit a financial ceiling.

 

What are money blocks?A money block: is anything that holds you back from making the money that you want.

 

It’s really a protective mechanism to save us from some perceived harm.

 

Money blocks are with you for life.

This is why you have to be vigilant and constantly work on them.

Your money blocks have been growing roots and hanging around for years.

It’s stuff you have taken on unconsciously from conditionings of your parents, teachers and society.

Conditioned beliefs are things that you haven’t been given the chance to logically process or form a belief around for yourself.

THEY ARE NOT YOUR OWN BELIEFS

They attach themselves to your subconscious and drastically impact your reality.

 

 

How does the subconscious work?

Subconscious doesn’t have the ability to analyze and evaluate.

It takes on what it sees and hears as truth.

This is why you need to be careful of surrounding yourself with negativity.

It’s all about energy

We are all just one big mass of flowing energy

Interactions in the world are an exchange of energy, including money.

Money blocks get in the way of this free flowing energy.

Unblock the chi.

 

How do you know if you have money blocks?

 

You do. Because everyone does.

 

Sometimes it’s a completely hidden story that sabotages you in sneaky ways.

For example, lots of people don’t think they have a money block.

Instead, they just tell themselves that they:

aren’t good at business

or that they aren’t meant to be rich.

 

It’s way too easy to think that you don’t make enough money for something outside of yourself:

Clients being broke

The economy

Mercury Retrograde

Any other random excuse

 

Don’t get me wrong, There are external factors that can affect your money. But believing that you can’t do anything about those factors is all in your mind.

 

 

 

For example – take the really common “I have to work hard to make money” one.

If you have this block:

actively sabotage yourself to make it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Resist delegating so you have to do everything yourself

Procrastinate so you have to pull all-nighters to finish your work.

 

But when you catch yourself doing these destructive behaviors, you can stop in the moment and remember that it’s just your money blocks. You can control how you act in those situations.

 

 

Popular money blocks

1. Believing you don’t deserve money

Grew up believing abundance was something that happened to other people

You might not think that you are good enough to get rich.

Look stupid if you gain money and lose it all.

This issue happens to people who have attained a little success. They are afraid of change and do not strive for more.

2. Negative assumptions about money

If you have a negative association with money and wealth, what are the chances of you getting money?Slim to none.

If you do happen to get money, you won’t be able to keep it because you do not want to be a bad person subconsciously

 

Popular belief system: if you love what you do, and you love helping others, then you shouldn’t profit from it.

 

Belief system reframed: You should love what you do so much that it’s the only way to make money.

 

Most of the time these neg associations are coming from society, parents, School, friends. Most of these statements come from the 95%.

 

They are the 95% and this is their belief system. If you want to get to the 5% you cannot afford to have these negative associations.

 

Most of the time that people say things like, ‘Money is not important’ it is a defensive statement. It usually means that they don’t have any, or they don’t know how to get some.

You cannot have money if this is your belief system.

3. You want everyone to like you

Overly sensitive to others opinions, perceptions, criticism, gossip and outright attacks.

When you have money people will attack you for no reason because they have perceptions about what you are about. Don’t take it personally.

4. Cues from your environment

Does your home or work environment subconsciously tune your mind into a vibration of lack rather than abundance?

Common blocks of this type include small change carelessly lying around, poorly organized receipts, items that remind you of your hardest times.

5. Blindness to signs

You may be used to tuning out or discrediting gut instincts

This can cause you to miss signs from the universe that are trying to point you toward wealth.

6. Excessively giving mindset

Being generous is great, but to manifest abundance you need to be both a giver and receiver

Are you asking the universe to help you and then refusing what it brings?

Your worth isn’t only defined by what you can provide for others

It’s healthy, positive and your right to want things for yourself as well.

7. Lack of specificity

Even if you think you’ve set a clear intention in your law of attraction work, many people don’t realize that their subconscious has pushed them to set very vague goals that are hard to visualize and hard to attain.

Don’t be afraid to set your mind on a specific amount of money and a specific timespan.

Specificity brings results.

8. Low expectations

A mind full of doubts or low expectations will not be able to harness the energy required for a wealthy life.

9. Fear of success

Your subconscious may be terrified of getting what it wants

 

Discovering your own money blocks:

 

To release money blocks, you have to find clarity on what they are.

Once you can personally identify the origins then you can work toward letting go of them.

1. What are your money blocks?

Pen & Paper

“What thoughts do I have around my ability/ decision to make more money?”

Write all beliefs and thoughts.

Once you are clear of what’s going on inside your head, surrender the thoughts

Let them go and open yourself.

Be willing to allow more money into your life

2. Programming your mind for financial abundance

Financial affirmations’I deserve wealth, and I am moving towards a life of abundance.’

Negative to Positive `Write down every negative message you have ever heart about money, whether it’s from family, society, religion or culture.

Next to each belief write a corresponding positive belief, and focus on those.

Money is the root of all evil = I am a good person, no matter how much or little money I have

Identify your anxieties surrounding success

I worry I still won’t be happy

I worry I am not responsible enough to have a lot of money

Write down the anxieties that you have about success

Write down contradictions to these anxieties and repeat the positive statements everyday.

Strengthen your intuition10 minutes meditation per day can help you listen to your own intuition.

Reading books & applying them

3. Take the right action

Pounce on opportunities.

If what you are doing now isn’t working, what other action could you take?

 

Other options:

Tapping

Reiki

Chakra balancing

Hypnosis

 

In conclusion:

 

We stop ourselves from excelling financially because of blocks and false beliefs.

 

This quote speaks to me. This is how we should think of money.

 

‘Money is the amplifier of who you are. If you are a bad person, the money amplifies it. If you are a great person, the money amplifies it.’

 

RMEMBER: There are only 3 things about money that you need to know:

How to make it

How to keep it

How to multiply it

 

Most people can’t even figure out the first one!!!

It is very simple.

Change your false & negative beliefs about money, and you can then begin to learn the process of how to make it, keep it and multiply it.

Facebook Algorithm 2018

What is an algorithm?

The facebook algorithm is a set of calculations used to decide what content we see.

Chronological feeds are gone, you get what you are given.

 

Why does Facebook continue to change the algorithm?

Businesses & brands were doing great, but so was ‘Fake News’

Fake News: intentionally untrue articles, that aim to ruffle feathers, or pander people, in order to get large amounts of shares.

Facebook was being riddled with fake news & becoming known for it, which caused it’s reputation to take a beating.

The 2018 updates have been dedicated totaking action against fake news

regain trust

reaffirm FB as a platform for community and meaningful social interaction.

 

“Time Spent is not a goal by itself. We want the time people spend on Facebook to encourage meaningful social interactions” - Mark Zuckerber, November 1st 2017

 

Unfortunately, business owners have taken a hit during these changes. Facebook has started serving their content a lot less, favoring personal content from users.

 

Business owners have encountered large drops in traffic.

 

The News Feed

Facebook’s news feed and how it’s ordered and presented is based on four things:

Inventory

Signals

Predictions

Score

 

Inventory:

This is how Facebook refers to all the available content on Facebook, whether it’s posts fromfriends

family

groups that you are in

pages that you have liked

 

Signals:

These are what Facebook uses to help choose which content goes out.

It includes a list of criteria. We’ve listed all the ones we know here:Who posted the content

When was it posted

What time is it now

Technology (what type of phone, how strong is the internet connection)

Content type

Average time spent on content

How informative the post is

Completeness of a profile

These last signals are stated to be ‘Meaningful Interaction’ and they will be prioritized:Comments and likes on a person’s status or photo

Engagement with publisher content posted by friends

Shares on messenger

Replies to comments on a video

 

Note: Facebook gives more weight to conversations between people than they will to those between a page and a person.

 

Predictions:

This is where fb uses your profile and previous behaviors to decide what to show you.

They attempt to work out how likely you are to like or interact with content, keeping stuff they think you won’t engage with out of your timeline.

 

Score:

This refers to a value assigned to a piece of content that will determine it’s relevancy to the user

The higher the score, the more likely it will appear in the feed.

Content will get different scores for individual people.

 

EXAMPLES:

HIGH SCORE:

A friend posts an article as their status with their thoughts on the article.

Catches interest of your other friends: like, react, comment, debate.

Dad send you the link to the same article.

Facebook sees all of your friends sharing, talking about it, and sending it through messenger.

Facebook thinks this is something you will interact with.

Friends post appears at the top of your feed all day

Eventually you comment.

 

LOW SCORE:

A page you haven’t interacted with in five years posts. They do not have all of their info filled out, they do not have a profile picture.

No one comments or likes

Out of the 8k people who like the page, 10 people click on the link

Facebook is not going to give this a high score for you and it’s unlikely that you would see this post in your fee.

 

What does this mean for publishers and brands?

Harder to reach people.

Posts from pages will struggle.

Facebook doesn’t think pages are as likely to generate genuine engagement between people, which to be fair, is probably right.

 

Best Practices for the new algorithm

 

Shift from popularity and attention-driven content to content that creates substantial engagement.

 

Publish High-Quality Content

Quality & relevance should always be on the forefront of your FB strategy.

If you are posting spammy content, or content that has nothing to do with your audience, your post will have little to no effect.

 

Focus on Audience Needs

Share things that are meaningful to others. Only if they engage emotionally and personally will they feel the need to comment, share or interact with your content.

You need to have a deep understanding of your audienceTheir challenges

Fears

Motivations

Anything that gets them involved.

 

Post Interaction-Worthy Content

QuestionsRecommendations & advice

Sparks interesting discussions

Helps you understand your audience better

Timely, relevant topicsStuff that is going on right now.

If it’s on other’s minds, they are more likely to share their perspective and take part in conversation

Videos & other visual contentVisual is better than text.

Video takes the crown in terms of engagement.

Personal StoriesYou aren’t just a brand, but also a person

Facebook aims to be about personal connection

Be personal.

Interact with followers like you would with your friends to make a meaningful impact.

 

Take Part

Reply to comments, take to followers.

Keep conversation going to push your posts in the news feeds

 

Live Video

One of the most effective content types

Averages 6 times more interactions than regular video clips.

One of the concrete mentions for content that will continue to perform well under the new algorithm.

 

“At a recent social media conference, it was clear that brands that rely on Facebook for their digital marketing have 3 options:

Increase their fb ad spend budget to promote posts (not something many businesses can do)

Keep FB in the mix but also incorporate other platforms

Utilize facebook live, which now has a higher organic reach than other types of non-paid posts”

Rebecca Kowalewicz, Clearbridge Branding Agency

 

Encourage Audience to Follow your page or profile

Even if organic reach is harder to achieve, people who follow your page will continue to see your content.

Especially ‘See First’

Actively ask followers to follow your page.

 

Create Groups

Groups are used by more than 1 billion people worldwide.

Facebook is pushing their groups functionality.

They are formed around specific interests and generate a lot of conversation.

 

 

Analyze and benchmark your performance

Post at the same time that your followers are online.Increases the chance of them seeing it

Figure out what your audience loves, and post more of that.

 

Avoid Engagement Bait

This is not meaningful interaction & it can result in demotion of page posts!!

 

 

What is engagement bait?

Vote Baiting“Vote on your 2018 goals”

Photo with 4 options: Be more fit, find love, get promotion, move cities.

React Baiting“Like this if you’re an Aries or LOVE this if you’re a Leo to find true love!!

Share Baiting“Share with 10 friends for a chance to win a new convertible!”

Tag baiting“Who is the mystery girl?! Tag friends who look like her, if enough people comment, I get to keep this painting!”

Comment Baiting“Comment YES if you love rock as much as I do!

 

2018 Priorities for News

Trusted Sources: showing more posts from publishers the community finds trustworthy

Informative Content: Prioritizing news that people have told us they find informative

Local News: Making it easier for people to see news that is relevant to their local community

Why you need to start a business

 

Why people are scared to start..

Failing

Going broke

Living uncomfortably

Disappointing loved ones

Not living up to your own expectations

 

Everyone wants to start their own venture at some point, but only a few have the balls to actually do it

1. You will delete the “what-ifs” in your life

Most of us are passionate about something

If were talented enough at this passion then surely you’d want to turn it into a career

But competition is fierce

The market is tough

Finances are tight

So everyone sticks to the 9-5 because its safe and secure

 

What if your job is boring

Not excited about going to work anymore

Looking to doing something you actually care about and have the freedom of your own time

Starting a business is the sure fire way to get rid of all the “what-ifs” in your life”

2. You will accelerate your learning curve like never before

On of the first things you learn when starting a business is LEARNING

When youre an employee you learn about your role and your industry

When youre the boss, you have to learn everything

Marketing

Accounting

Operations

Finance

Keeping up to date with..

New technology

Tools

Consumer trends

Industry news

This will for you to learn like never before, you will easily become a lifelong learner who loves the challenge of learning something new

Both personal and business will become a progressive journey

You’ll start to develop a “beginners mind”

3. You’ll learn to be independent in your thinking and trust your instinct

Running a business requires you to think on your, ALOT

There won’t be a boss or a team of advisors in the beginning to bounce ideas off of

Constantly you will learn how to make decisions independently and become more decisive as you grow

You learn to trust your gut instinct because no-one else knows your business like you do

Theres something about that feeling you get when a decision is solely dependent on you at any given moment

No need to compromise different opinions from your boss and your colleagues anymore, you make your decision and then are responsible for it

 

4. You wake up every day driven and motivated to go to work

Living a life dedicated to your passions and dreams in priceless

You actually start wishing you could fast forward past the sleeping parts so you can get back to the hustle

In the beginning there won’t be any money most likely, but it won’t matter

 

5. You know what it feels like to truly follow ones passion

The feeling of fulfillment just does something to you and keeps you excited, because “at least im working for myself”

best way to learn how to sacrifice the external things that make you happy (Like drinking and eating out) for the things that make you internally happy (Making your business succeed)

Instead of that money being used for a night out, you’d happily spend that on new products or marketing materials, because that money will come back plus some

 

6. You become more daring and fearless

Starting a business cant be some scary stuff, but a good scary lol

You quickly learn to believe in yourself by making daring decisions over and over

Being an entrepreneur will get rid of your self-limiting beliefs like never before

You learn that nothing is ever really that serious and 6 months from now it won’t matter or it’ll be funny to look back at

You learn that your comfort zone expands the more you step out of that comfort zone

You learn to initiate contacts and approach people, its not so scary after all

You learn to make things happen even when you have no idea how to do it (google)

This mentality develops into a habit and you get comfortable with being uncomfortable

 

7. You become a person of actions, not just words

As an entrepreneur you cannot just talk for the hell of it

In fact, things won’t happen unless you make actions

You have to keep your word and follow through or you won’t be an entrepreneur for that long

In the beginning you cant afford the experts or employees so everything is on you! Embrace it!

 

8. Quickly realize how many amazing people really are out there

You meed tons of other like minded people who are dedicated to bettering themselves and their skills

These people are always more than willing to help another fellow entrepreneur out, this community is focused on progressing and answers instead of being stagnant and focusing on problems (which could be you current circle)

This will bring you more opportunities than you could imagine

Jennifer greene

 

9. Tax deductions

Everything is a tax write off

Meals

Technology

Transportation

Education

Daycare

Business vacations

Home office utilities

Ill post a link in the group