Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 121 - "How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needs" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

Often the image we seek to portray, and that we see of others, is one that is curated to elicit acceptance, notoriety, advancement and endless other things (ie. attempting to get needs met). If the image being presented isn't a true reflection of who we are, it is likely compromising our needs more than it's meeting them. Join us as we talk about our own journeys with image and the affect an image can have on not only our needs but our humanity as well.

Trigger warning: We discuss a phrase that we have since found to have a problematic history regarding racism. Please see the extended trigger warning notes below for additional information.

In this episode we cover:

- What is an image?

- Why do we try to portray an image?

- Who's needs are getting met when you portray an image

- The red green spectrum

- The significant downsides to portraying an image

- The conditioning Serena experienced as a child

- How Claire's image was molded

- What can happen when your different images collide

- What happens to connection and relationship when we create an image

- What Serena has discovered about weirdos

- Why sometimes the right word is "Fuck"

- Rules vs Principles

- The role perfection plays

- How an image compromises needs

- Why we believe something is perfect

- The difference between what is "right" and what is best

- How perfectionism affected Claire's image

- What needs are present when we create an image

- How do we shift this?

- The difference between fitting in and belonging

- Life's conveyer belt

- What happens when you get rid of the image

- How meeting her needs has taught Serena to "own it"

- The term we will no longer be using

- How an image can sacrifice our humanity

- When portraying an image is OK

Trigger Warning: We have found the term referenced in our podcast to be problematic as at one time it was utilized in reference to black people. Although the origin of the term, and some of it's subsequent associations are not harmful on their own, we believe it's usage could be harmful to others and will actively try to utilize other terminology. We go into this further in the short add on at the end of this episode.

Episode References:

The episode we talk about what happened when all of Claire's images had to be together in one room - Episode 23 - How to get over perfectionism

The episode where we talk about the Red-Green Spectrum - Episode 3 - I need to do WHAT?

The episode where we talk about being perfectly imperfect - Episode 23 - How to get over perfectionism

Our last episode - Episode 120 - When things don’t go to plan mini-series - "Creating"

The "C" word - Episode 19 - The C-word