In this week’s episode, I wanted to address a question that I received from Instagram. A follower messaged me about how lonely she is in her relationship and after getting more information from her, I realized that her expectations for a healthy relationship are unrealistic. I then explained to her the importance of having her OWN rich, full life. Ladies, if you are going to have a healthy relationship or marriage, you must understand that all the needs you have will NOT be met by your partner.

According to Willard Harley’s book “His Needs, Her Needs”, there are ten core emotional needs that we all have. There is only ONE need that can only be met by your partner and that is Sexual Fulfillment. The other nine needs can be legitimately met by others. Esther Perel has also addressed this in her book “Mating In Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and The Domestic”. She noted that this phenomenon is relatively new to modern-day relationships. The expectation that our partners will be “everything” to us; best friend, lover, business partner, co-parents, etc. is creating a weight that many cannot bear.

Take a listen to this episode and let me know your thoughts about maintaining your personal identity and life while also being in a healthy interdependent relationship.

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