In this week’s episode of the podcast, I wanted to discuss with you how you learned about relationships and how to be in them. Your family was your first teacher on relationships and for many of us (myself included!), those lessons weren’t all healthy and positive. Many of us came from dysfunctional homes where we learned how to “hide” ourselves and our feelings. Especially if you had a critical parent. Marisa Peer,  a world-renowned speaker, therapist, and best-selling author, says that the number one problem most of us suffer from is feeling like we are “not enough”.

This early “scripting” runs through us in everything that we do, especially in romantic relationships. We either become codependent in our relationships, seeking approval or acceptance, or we self-sabotage because we are deeply fearful of truly being “seen”. There is a small percentage of us who had emotionally healthy families and wind up with secure attachments styles. But these folks can also struggle in relationships if they are not aware that so many others have dysfunctional programming and they assume that others are more like them. These folks get blindsided by others toxic ways.

That is why I say it’s SO important for us as adults to do an assessment of everything our families of origin taught us and to determine what is working and what isn’t. Anything that is no longer working for you needs to be rejected and NEW habits need to be formed. Listen to this episode to learn how to create some healthy habits to have a successful romantic relationship.

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